3-2-1

[mizzou7016]

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3-2-1: How friendship shapes you, improving along the way, and how to handle your doubts

read on JAMESCLEAR.COM | DECEMBER, 14, 2023

Happy 3-2-1 Thursday!

Here are 3 ideas, 2 quotes, and 1 question to consider this week...

3 Ideas From Me

I.

"When you choose your friends today, you are choosing your habits tomorrow."

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II.

"It's easier to optimize a modest start than to begin with a perfect start. Starting is the hard part, so start small and get in the mix. You'll learn a lot and you'll realize you don't need to have it all figured out to begin."

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III.

"Don't spend too much time around someone whose primary way of engaging with life is as a martyr. When suffering becomes your identity, you only see the hard parts of life."

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2 Quotes From Others

I.

Author and poet Maya Angelou on finding your family:

"Family isn't always blood. It's the people in your life who want you in theirs; the ones who accept you for who you are. The ones who would do anything to see you smile and who love you no matter what."

Source: I found it on her Facebook page, but if you know the original source please share.

II.

Musician and entrepreneur Derek Sivers on how to handle doubts:

"If you're in doubt about something that's not in your life, try it. Things are so different in practice versus in theory. The only way to know is to experience it yourself. ... Err on the side of yes. Try it. If it was a mistake, at least you’ll know first-hand, instead of always wondering.

If you're in doubt about something that's in your life already, get rid of it. Not just things, this goes for identities, habits, goals, relationships, technology, and anything else. Default to not having it, then see how you do without. ... Err on the side of no. Get rid of it. Start with a clean slate. If it was a mistake, you'll get it back with a renewed enthusiasm."

Source: When in Doubt, Try the Difference

1 Question For You

What are my favorite hours of the day and what adjustments can I make to ensure they are under my control?

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Until next week,

James Clear

Author of Atomic Habits and keynote speaker

[SayNOtoPanic]

thanks mizzou. Really enjoy these. I like the Maya Angelou quote with family not always being blood. It’s true. Sometimes your own blood is a hot mess, and friends may treat you better. And vice versa.

[mizzou7016]

I totally understand that....I have a work family and a blood family..,..both have equal important parts

[SayNOtoPanic]

Indeed!! So true.

[mizzou7016 in reply to SayNOtoPanic]

how are you doing panic....hope you have an amazing 2024

[SayNOtoPanic in reply to mizzou7016]

Happy New Year mizzou. Hugs. I’m good. Thx for asking. How are you?

[mizzou7016]

Doing well all things considered....ready for the weekend.......been a long week