To go or not

[SOULCARESS]

Hello. I have had an uptick in my anxiety lately as well as other health issues. I had a friend/associate reach out that I haven't talked to in some months text and ask to meet up to catch up. I am going through these issues right now and just want to hide until they get better. My appearance has been altered due to my health condition right now. I have gained weight and can't find the right clothes. Thinking about this decision is causing me anxiety when I wake each morning. What do u think?

[b1b1b1]

Can you explain to your friend beforehand what has happened in terms of your health and that you are a bit anxious about it but that you would still really like to see her. If she knows what you are dealing with ahead of the meeting it may help to reduce your anxiety. Then, by all means, you should arrange to see her. Also, keep in mind that if you turn her down you will hurt her feelings, and I am assuming that you like her and therefore do not want to do that.

[EndUser13]

I think, on average, we care way too much what others think of us and that people with anxiety disorders tend to be their own worst enemy. I would consider what you could gain versus what you might lose out on and ask yourself which is worth more to you.

I realize dealing with anxiety is not so black and white. If you think you can make it, perhaps it would be healthy to reconnect and mix up your daily routine. Only you know the answer to your question and you may never know "the right answer" until afterwards.

Whatever you choose, best of luck!

[012703060610]

I think self care is your top priority. I have all too many time said yes to going somewhere only to have to cancel last minute due to my anxiety. I think you'll have to make an informed decision based on this friend. I like the idea of opening up as b1b1b1 suggests, but I know not all people can handle the concept of depression/anxiety. You need to feel comfortable. I hope the friend can be helpful, but if you know they may not understand or pepper you with endless questions around what you're dealing with, it could be more harm than good. But if this is someone that can be supportive in your life, I think the effort is worth it.

[SOULCARESS]

Thank you for your replies.