good days and not so good Days

[Mskitty21]

Had a great day yesterday and today a few minor anxiety attacks. The thought is if I just ‘do this’ the panic attacks will stop… but the ‘do this’ is like run away or move to another country 😨 So just working through that and trying to work as well 😨 Remembering there are things in the past few days even that I’ve learned that doesn’t require huge life changes to calm my panic and to also accept it little by little.

Anyways… just a day in the life…. Hope everyone else is having a good Thursday ❤️

[Agora1]

Hi Mskitty21... yes, I've had that thought as well at times. If I could just pick up

and move away but then I realized the baggage still comes with me. And so we

accept what we can and can't change and go on with Life.

Happy Thursday! Happiness happens when you least expect it xx

[Mskitty21 in reply to Agora1]

Your support and kind words are truly felt… Thank you so very much ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[Agora1 in reply to Mskitty21]

Namaste dear one xx

[Artistfriend]

I understand, i get caught up thinking that certain things will stop the anxiety and if i feel like i dont have immediate access to things then the anxiety will continue and that just isnt how it works. The best way to deal with it is to let it burn out on its own because it will, it can be very uncomfortable and difficult but accepting the anxiety never makes it worse, it can only go down from there

[designguy]

Agora's right in that our baggage goes with us no matter where we go. It sounds like you are on the right track with learning ways to calm yourself and let go of some of the fear about the panic/anxiety. Learning how to constructively think and deal with panic/anxiety can help lower the fear of it even more. I found the DARE anxiety book and youtube videos helpful for healing my panic/anxiety.

[Mskitty21 in reply to designguy]

I’m doing the DARE as well… I just got my book and workbook yesterday. I think many of their concepts are going to help me ❤️ Def accepting my panic…. Even tho uncomfortable… is seeming to be more helpful than fighting it.

Medication is helping me now as well ( I know DARE doesn’t really approve of that) but i am doing what is best for me right now 😊

[designguy in reply to Mskitty21]

That is great, good for you, I also found their phone app to be helpful and even subscribed to the premium version for awhile. And you're right, once you start accepting the uncomfortable and realize it actually feels better than continuing to fight it and struggle with it which just prolongs it, you gain more confidence and easier to do. One of the things I started doing after I gained a little confidence was purposely trying to make my anxiety bigger and last longer and be more intense, it really helped.

One of the other really helpful things is realizing and accepting that the anxious thoughts are just lies and you don't have to believe them. I found practicing simple mindfulness meditation to be helpful for learning to detach from my thoughts by just sitting, focusing on my breath and letting the thoughts flow in and out of my mind and bring my focus back to my breath and continuing.

Anxiety is just our bodies built in warning system and a part of us and we just need to learn to have a different relationship to it.

I also used medication (klonopin) initially to help me learn to deal with the anxiety and then tapered off of it and then used it occasionally if I needed so don't feel bad about it and it's helping you.

It's very common to have setbacks and they can be disturbing but they are temporary but they are really a sign that you are making progress.

[Sixtiesguy in reply to designguy]

A very helpful contribution. Many thanks.

[Mskitty21]

All of what your saying definitely rings true. It’s so bizarre to me that my mind makes up these ridiculous scenarios and those scenarios cause me extreme panic…. So I am beginning to do the work of letting the thoughts pass thru. It’s not always easy but I’m working on it. Our minds can come up with some pretty intense stuff.

I was also given a technique that has been working really well where I give my anxiety/worry/panic/intrusive thoughts a half hour or so a day. Let it all come at me and journal thru it or even use some of the DARE technique and just let it wash over me. Once I let it have it’s time I wrap it up for the day and say ok…. That was my ‘worry hour’ now I can move on and do all the other things I have to do. And if the worry/panic/anxiety tries to come back I say No…you had your time today now it’s my time 😊You can have more time tomorrow if you need it 😊 It’s kinda cool and just another mind game 👍🏻

Thanks for chatting and being here…just not feeling so alone and getting some good help from ppl who know how I feel is valuable to me 😊

[Sixtiesguy in reply to Mskitty21]

A wonderful response

[Trainchaser]

Mskitty21 I hate the up and downs of anxiety and depression when I am up I think it won't last for long and when I am down I don't think a good day is possible

[Mskitty21]

Literally so true