Relationships end, but My life doesnt.

[Shanm2]

A relationship i have been in for many years ended yesterday, just like it has done many times before. He says; "I never needed to say I love him, because he knew through my actions" and i find peace in that.

I don't know what i feel at this moment in time.

He says; "I want what best for you and waiting on me isn't it" and i find respect in that.

I knew i'd have abandonment issues because the fear of losing him was a painful one.

I love him and he knows. I want best for him and we know ending the relationship was it.

I'm going to be okay, I'm going to be okay.

[Agora1]

Yes Shanm2, you will be okay. Breathe in acceptance, Breathe out

any anger of what may have been. You've got this xx

[Shanm2 in reply to Agora1]

Thank you Agora1! One day at a time, and thank you for both your reply and reminders x

[designguy]

Hello Shanm2, yes it hurts and feels like hell when a relationship ends so be kind and compassionate with yourself. I'm not sure if this applies to you or not, but you might take this time to reflect on if you are attracted to unavailable guys and why and if so learn how to break the pattern so you can have a mutually healthy relationship.

[Shanm2 in reply to designguy]

Thank you for your reply and advice. I shall reflect on what you mentioned above, and it is with great possibility that this was often the case. I wanted somone to give me love, effort and attention but wasn't ever willing to give that to myself and thats a big problem.

Again, i appreciate your response, its given me something to think about!

[designguy in reply to Shanm2]

You're welcome and increasing your own self-worth will only benefit you and future relationships.

[Shanm2 in reply to designguy]

I agree with you there

[Midori]

We are here when you aren't strong, we are a supportive bunch of folk.

Cheers. Midori

[Shanm2 in reply to Midori]

Thank you for that reminder, I will probably need it when its a though day