family visits

[Sa89]

I seem to struggle with family issues whenever there is drama I don’t want to go out and instead just want to remain home . My family is in town and I’m hesitant to visit because of the added stress . They lie about almost everything and I find it hard to be open and receiving when I know I’m being played for a fool. It’s hurtful and makes me want to go along with the lies and bs just to maintain some contact and I feel stupid doing so and it depresses me and adds to my anxiety because I’m afraid I’ll say something and further destroy this fake family rainbow and unicorn relationship.

[SayNOtoPanic]

sorry to hear this. Have dealt with it in the past and can relate. My advice would be to be kind to yourself. If you feel it’s more harmful to you then good and can sit this one out, just don’t go. If you feel there is some positive and you can hang for a little bit just to say hello and then excuse yourself, try that. Just follow your instinct and don’t overpressure yourself. Not worth the added anxiety. Hugs

[blackcat64013]

Hi 👋, I have issues with family members too. 😕 I am sorry to hear about your relationship with your family 👪. You don't have to worry about faking it to make it work. Just be your authentic self. If it's too much to handle , stay at arms length. On the other hand, stay smart and touch base knowing that bullshit is coming your way. Just remember to duck out of the way. You aren't the one with the issues.

You might like to debrief afterwards with a friend or a professional ear.

All the best for 2023!

[BinkyHubb]

I go through this❤❤ But I'm adopted and they are the only people I have in my life and it hurts because I know i be been the fool multiple times I just don't want to lose anyone else