everyone I know is getting engaged or married……and then there’s me.
The outcast: everyone I know is getting... - Anxiety and Depre...
The outcast
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I know I need to be patient, but it’s just hard to not wonder if it’ll ever happen. Is there something wrong with me? Then it gets worse when my own starts to wonder what’s going on.
I know at times it may feel as though we should be following a certain path, and when that idea we have in our mind doesn't show the way we want to it can be discouraging. Yet, you may find that if you take a moment and understand that there is no right or wrong way of having a path for your life, just take one step at a time. Everyone is just trying to get through this crazy life and we can't fall into the habit of comparing ourselves to others. because we will never see the great things we have going for ourselves.
I’m really trying to see the positive moreso than the idea of what I think should happen. It’s harder than I thought.
Come to think of it. that makes a lot of sense.
If you want it and you keep seeking people you will. 32 is still pretty young these days. I believe that is average age to get married which mean half get married later.
sometimes it seems as if I have to be someone I’m not to even get people looking my way. I’m not outgoing, the makeup wearing, partygoer, or high heel wearing type of person. I’m the laid back, all black clothes wearing, sweatpants wearing abd vampire diaries watching type of girl 🤷🏼♀️
DodgeDhanda in reply to
Just be U & be the real true U & if others don't like it at least U won't need to buy wedding gifts for weddings U may not bother with. Also whose to say that next year U won't meet ur ideal partner.
No one knows what's ahead & if U do know someone get the lotto numbers from them
in reply to DodgeDhanda
🤣 I needed that laugh. Thank you
well, I’m not sure about anything anymore. I don’t think I ever was. Everything is so confusing.
I got married when I was 35. Now I’m 52 and we’re separated, no kids. I just think a lot of people are married but I’m not sure if they’re that happy. I don’t regret doing it, we had a great wedding!!! But I don’t know right now about getting back together with him or even trying to date anyone else. I’m just trying to get my own life together.
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I’m sorry you got separated and I understand completely.
Same haha
Please don't allow yourself to be so upset over this - you obviously haven't met the 'RIGHT' one yet. I have counselled so many people who have married early/young and found themselves married to the 'wrong person' - there is so much more heartbreak when this happens, feelings of rejection, of failure, loss of self worth, blame, and so so much more, especially if there are children involved. Much better to wait for Mr/Mrs RIGHT. Your time will come and you will be a wonderful bride.
in reply to Babe1213
that’s so sweet of you. Thank you. I’ll try to keep that in mind
I used to be a wedding photographer and followed "my couples" on social. Half of them are divorced, some are remarried, some of those are divorced, others are happily single and some still happily married. It doesn't matter what others do (easier said than done and super hard when you feel like the odd one out), the only thing that really matters is that you do what makes you happy.
I so agree with you S C. My father in law was a 'journalist photographer' but did a lot of 'wedding work', - this was in the days before social media. He always managed to keep up with his couples. MY husband and I have been married for nearly 55 years now, for most of that time, we have been happy, with some blips along the way. We have always tried to work through our problems together. But there is such a vast difference today in the expectations, and the way of life we faced back in 1968. There is also such a lot of peer pressure these days that do little to help those who do feel as though they are the odd one out. I wish all younger people (younger than me that is) a world of health, love, and happiness that will come in GOD's perfect timing.
Same here all my friends are married or in a relationship, I do feel sad and I tried many dating apps but no luck at the moment. How ever people say to me when the right comes I really wish that you find someone who will always care for you.
in reply to Manutd87
I want to try a dating app, but I’m not sure which one is best.
I understand that feeling, by the time I met and married my husband in my 30’s I had been a bridesmaid so many times I thought that was my destiny to always be the bridesmaid and never the bride. I decided that it wasn’t going to be my destiny to find the one and that I would just enjoy life for what I did have, I joined an art class went out with friends joined a book club etc- I then met my husband who was the brother of my friends husband and we were engaged at just 4 months of meeting and we have now been married for 30 years!
Just goes to show you can never tell. It’s often when you’re not looking these things happen. I realise now that there were things in my life that needed sorting out before I was ready to settle and that sometimes things happen for a reason 💜
Just wondering how old are you if you don’t mind my asking. I was busy with my career and didn’t marry until I was 32. I had my son a year later. I really don’t think it matters when you marry. It is finding the perfect mate so you will have a long and happy marriage.
The most important thing is trying to be happy with yourself whether or not you meet someone. Don't compare yourself with others, you are your own person. I didn't get married until I was 40, then divorced 3 years later. It just didn't work out. (No need to be sorry about it. In fact I had a divorce party). I am in my 60's and never again felt the need or want to remarry. Nobody knows what's in store for us. I do hope you eventually meet that special person.
I married for the first time when I was in my 30s. A friend did the same in her late 30s. And yet another was 60(!) when she first went down the aisle.
As my mother once said, "Don't worry, there will always be someone dumb enough to marry you."
Gee, thanks, Mom!
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