new/depressed

[Coyotecoyote]

I’m new to this site today. I’m extremely depressed and can barely get out of bed. A new symptom is that I can’t bear to be alone. My boyfriend just left for the gym and I’m so anxious. I’m a 45 year old and feel like I’m too old to feel this way. Just looking for someone that can understand…..

[75pink]

I completely understand. I'm 46 and go through episodes similar to yours, usually a few times a year. It's very difficult. I'm sorry for your suffering. You are definitely not alone.

[Coyotecoyote in reply to 75pink]

Thank you for your support .

[StardustHunter7]

There is actually a name for that fear but I never remember it.

I'm the same way. Absolutely petrified to be alone. I'm always anxious and terrified something horrible is going to happen.

And guess what? I'm only 20. There's nothing wrong with you. It just happens, okay?

[AnxiousSilver]

First and foremost, welcome to this site.

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Second.. I'm 47.

My primary issue is severe GAD, and PAs. (AKA severe anxiety)

But I deal with bad depression swings at times too because of my anxiety.

Either way, while I don't have a fix for this, I can relate.

[designguy]

Hello and welcome to the site, sorry you are having a tough go of it. Are you seeing a therapist and on medication? If not, it sounds like you would benefit from therapy to help investigate, understand and deal with your fears, possibly of abandonment. Also medication could help you at least temporarily to get back into balance.

[Coyotecoyote]

Thank you for your feedback. I’m seeing a therapist and a psychiatrist but still in this boat for some reason.

[Willow2022 in reply to Coyotecoyote]

Therapy can take time until you notice a difference. Same with meds. Though I would bring both up to your doctors/therapist and they may have a different approach as far as different meds or how to treat your depression and fear of being alone.

I’m 44 and oddly enough, in my depressive states, I want to be alone.

We are here for you as a group or you can PM me if need be.