Seeking help

[shoppinghabit]

Does anyone feel guilty all the time about suffering from depression? My therapist says I beat myself up too much for something I have no control over. Does anyone else feel this way or is it just me? I want my old self back! I feel lost most of the time.

[Adamj]

I feel guilty for what I’m going through so I do relate to you. Realize though you did not choose to go through this. And do not beat yourself up for it. I also get told by my therapist that I’m extremely too hard on myself we will with time learn to cope and feel better and not feel guilty for what we were dealt.

[shoppinghabit in reply to Adamj]

Thank you for your reply. Knowing others feel this way makes me feel that someone knows what I’m going through. I don’t want others to feel this way but makes me feel less alone somehow.

[CL3V3R-G1RL]

I am a harsh critic of myself. I think its how we get wired by people in our lives. We were told we were smart, resourceful, and have our stuff together. When we need help because depression comes in a cycle. We feel like we let others down. Because we aren't put together so well.

Truth is we are still good human beings. Like all human beings we have our quirks and flaws. But we are not solely made up of flaws. We have plenty to offer the world. Sometimes you have to be your own cheerleader. Remember you are still an amazing person! Depression has not taken that away from you! 💗🫂

[shoppinghabit in reply to CL3V3R-G1RL]

Some days I feel depression has taken so much from me. I will take what you’ve said to heart and try to be my own cheerleader. Thank you for the suggestion.

[CL3V3R-G1RL in reply to shoppinghabit]

I know shoppinghabit Ive felt the same with my anxiety when it was at an all time high. But you can get through this. The old you is there, just hidden at the present moment. Like the sun being blocked by clouds. The sun didn't disappear forever. Its still there and those clouds will eventually move away and the sun will shine again. Just like I know you will 😊🫂

[shoppinghabit in reply to CL3V3R-G1RL]

I so hope you’re right. I know I need to believe to make it happen. It’s just tough right now. Thank you.

[Tara52]

Oh yes! I discovered it is quite common among people who were raised by narcissistic parents or who had narcissistic spouses who lacked empathy, never could take responsibility for their actions (blame shifted) and made us doubt reality (gaslighting). Ugh!! It left me in a constant state of confusion, making me feel bad leading to severe depression. I had to do alot of study on this topic. Youre not crazy, they are!!

[shoppinghabit in reply to Tara52]

I’m sure you’re right. I do have a supportive spouse so it’s probably just my issue. I need to stop feeling guilty but have a hard time with that. I want to be my old self again.

[justgoosethings]

i feel so guilty about how my depression and anxiety effects everyone around me. your not alone. my mom has been telling me a lot recently to give myself some grace and not be so hard on myself but it’s hard to unlearn those

[shoppinghabit in reply to justgoosethings]

I don’t like the way it effects my family mostly. I’ve been told that too. I agree it’s hard to do.

[justgoosethings]

yeah i worry 24/7 that it will push everyone away and it sucks

[shoppinghabit in reply to justgoosethings]

I understand. I worry about that too.

[Hidden]

I have bipolar disorder and it just sucks. There’s no cure for it, you just have to learn how to cope. I feel like I have the potential to be so much more than a bipolar nutcase. So many people don’t understand me and what I’ve been through. There’s too much stigma out there.

[shoppinghabit in reply to Hidden]

Is the depression more severe with bipolar? I agree, so much stigma regarding any mental health issues. I guess the only people who understand are the ones who live with it daily.

[Hidden in reply to shoppinghabit]

I’m not sure if it’s more severe, but in the past I have made two serious suicide attempts. I have mood swings where one minute I’m really down and then the next I’m manic and I’m feeling too good. It’s difficult to feel like you’re stable.

[shoppinghabit]

I’m so sorry to hear that I hope you’re doing better now. I wish we all didn’t have to struggle so much to make it through it.

[Mom2PCat]

I say those words a lot. I want me back. Unfortunately, I have time when I am so apathetic that I can't even find the guilt in me. I do have a lot of anger, tho. People around the house that don't help, people pushing me to go back to work. The words that I hate the most are that I'm looking good. I look the same on the outside. Try looking inward.

[Mrspjsmom]

I feel that way every day. I'm my own worst enemy.