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The chaos that's surrounding me is drowning me.

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The title speaks for itself i think...

Today is one of those days where everything that's happening around me is too much.

And if i were a friend of mine, instead of me

I would say something along the lines of; "you need to take some time to calm your mind and find comfort in the things that will bring you a little joy or peace during this time"

But my mind draws a blank... I just repeat to myself it's going to be okay, Stay Strong!

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Roxylox

Sounds to me you have the answer yourself. Repeating 'It' s going to be okay, stay strong' sounds good to me. I would have chaos in my house in that I badly need to de - clutter.

I think you may be talking about a different type of chaos.

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Shanm2 in reply toRoxylox

Thank you for your reply, I was talking about a different kind of chaos, but i reassure myself that it will calm down eventually 😀 i thank you again for your response during this time. It was helpful!

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Roxylox in reply toShanm2

Another kind of chaos I experience is an inner voice replaying past events l know l can't go back and change. Those events keep spinning around in my head. Perhaps your mantra 'stay strong, it will be okay' might help with that.

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Shanm2 in reply toRoxylox

I'm sorry you're going through this. I can relate with this also. Letting go or moving on from past events can so difficult to do, especially if it won't leave the mind or if it was traumatic.

Sometimes i find it helpful to write down some of the things that run over and over, sometimes i write what i'm greatful for today or how far i've come from then to now. Sometimes its listening to music so i can feel with the words i struggle to voice.

I hope that you find some comfort in 'Stay strong, it will be ok' mantra. We can only take one day at a time (or getting through the next five minutes even)

I really hope the days get easier and your heart/head gets less heavy with past events.

Please go easy on yourself, we're all just surviving the best we can. Be kind to yourself whilst remembering that you're okay now, (as best as can be) meaning you got through those days and times.

Stay strong, you've got this down and smile in knowing you will be okay again ❤️

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Roxylox in reply toShanm2

Thanks so much for all that good advice.

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EndUser13

I had a lot of nagging anxiety today and felt a bit surreal for a while. I thought I'd read a short story by Ray Bradbury, it was a bit of a weird story though and I don't think it helped. Sometimes, it's hard to figure out how to best offer comfort to yourself.

It sounds like you have a positive inner monologue going on though 😉

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Shanm2 in reply toEndUser13

I'm sorry you were feeling such anxiety.I hope you had better days after. Ray Bradbury i havent heard of, why did it not help, do you think?

I myself enjoy a good read! I related soo much to finding it hard figuring out how to comfort yourself...thanks for that, it was helpful to read as i didn't feel as alone in this.

Its interesting that you say it seems like i have a positive inner monologue, because sometimes it feels the opposite, but as i typed the original statement i try to not make it so doom and gloomy 😀

Your reply was appreciated! And again i hope the anxiety settles down for you. Take care!

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Caseopia

I understand how you feel like your drowning. I have so much going on I've slept for 3 days paralyzed with anxiety, dear, depression, etc. I am one who feels like I can't handle anything. But if I look back, I made it this far. Do you like quotes or affirmations? I made a 6ft by 4ft board I decorated and painted with rooms of positive quotes I've come across and it helps me to see it every day. I know that's big, I like art lol but I started by keeping a calming quote in my wallet to see daily. We just need to talk positive to ourselves and be hopeful. Atleast that's how it is for me. I'll be thinking of you.

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Shanm2 in reply toCaseopia

I feel for you and relate with what you've written here. I feel also that i can't handle alot of things at once as this was the case the other day, but also i reminded myself that i've dealt with tougher situations and made it through just as you put, but reading those words reminded me even more.

I have note pads upon note pads written with quotes and affirmations as this helps me but i'm glad it does the same for you and whats more you got arty with it! I love that for you! Where did you end up putting the board? I'm also into art 😊

Thank you soo much for your reply, We seem to have similar ways of what we like to do for the positivity we need! Yay us!

I hope you have better days, i hope you are surrounded with happiness and peace! I'll be thinking of you too!

Stay strong! You've got this ❤️

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Caseopia in reply toShanm2

I just have my quote/affirmation board on my long desk. It's too heavy for me to hang but it helps so much.

Affirmation board
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Shanm2 in reply toCaseopia

Wow :) I love it! And i'm it helps you!

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Caseopia in reply toShanm2

Thank you so much. It really is helpful. I keep adding but running out of space. Lol

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Shanm2 in reply toCaseopia

Its good the you keep adding, you might have add another big board it if possible though! :)

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Caseopia in reply toShanm2

Yes I need to make another lol

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Nanii

Sounds quite strong to me

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Shanm2 in reply toNanii

Thank you Nanii! I don't really feel that way right now, but again thank you for your words, it helps! 😊

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Nanii in reply toShanm2

In the middle of all kind of dreadful things happening to you it can feel like that, I can relate to that also. You're post just seems very conscious and you're able to view things from different angles. You're still able to have a (quite clear actually) overview of what you can do to help yourself. So that all together makes me come to that conclusion.

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Shanm2 in reply toNanii

I see :) I'm sorry you can relate but also hope it helped in some way

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Midori

By the sound of it you already have the answer sussed out! How about trying something new, because you appear to be a little bored. do you have hobbies?

Try your local library, they often have an index of societies, clubs and so on. Try something new.

Cheers, Midori

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Shanm2

Its a funny thing, As i was typing away about what i was feeling, it dawn on me "what would i say or do if it were someone else i cared about" And that where it came from. Sadly i've always been better with caring and look after others rather than myself. (This needs to change)

Possible boredom - perhaps of the same things repeating itself. I don't know about hobbies but i have interests that would be most helpful at this time. I love me some books so thank you for your suggestion! And you reply, its very much appreciated!

Take care 🙂

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Midori in reply toShanm2

Sometimes we can get too wrapped up in reading to remember there's a big old world out there. Things to do, friends to be made, coffees to drink, etc.

It tends to be my means of retreat also, so I have to be careful to only read at night in bed!

Cheers, Midori

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Shanm2 in reply toMidori

I really like your outlook with this, and i think technology also has alot to deal with too much reading and not exploring the world outside of us and probably a good idea to only read at night! I might have to adopt the at night time thing also.

Sometimes when it rains it pours. I always remind myself to take one day at a time.🙂

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Shanm2 in reply to

Thats very true! Sometimes even taking 5 minutes at a time is helpful.

But its great that you remind yourself of this :)

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Well, we are human beings and not human doings. You need to pace yourself sometimes. Not biting off more than you can chew.

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Shanm2 in reply to

This is also true, love the human beings not human doings part!

Sometimes (especially in this day and age) its so easy to get overloaded with stuff from just life, really.

As i read what you wrote the words "and just breathe" came to mind... so thanks for that :)

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Nanii in reply toShanm2

Maybe you have a strong intuition?

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Shanm2 in reply toNanii

Perhaps,i've never thought of myself having an strong intuition but thank you for pointing this out! :)

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LlamaDrama

This title got me. I'm drowning. I don't know what to do anymore. I am so uncomfortable in my own skin and alone with My bullying thoughts.

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Shanm2 in reply toLlamaDrama

I'm sorry you can relate with this and for what your going through. I can relate with not feeling comfortable in your own skin.

Sometimes its so easy to get swallowed up by our own negative thoughts that we - to our very core - believe these things to be true, when they simply are not.

As you've put "bullying thoughts" it says to me that you can pick yourself apart about body image particularly? (I'm sorry if i have this wrong - please do feel free to correct me)

Years ago i was told by a therapist that our negativity thoughts and negative self talk is on a continuous cycle that gets heavier the more it goes around and that it needed to be broken with gentle self compassion or simply with a little more kindness. This is something i'm still working on till this day. But i hope its helpful

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