Thank you

[Dragonfly_50]

After months and months of being here, I was shamed earlier today for trying to help someone feel better. (The point a lot isn’t it?) instead of just keeping their comments to themselves, the person “comment shamed” me & made me feel so unwelcome and chastised that I’m done. I’m leaving. This is supposed to be a safe place? Frankie24 took this from me. Goodbye to the people I connected with and thanks so much for taking a safe space and turning it into a nightmare Franki.

[Agora1]

Dearest Dragonfly, I am so sorry this has happened to you. This is suppose to be oursafe place since none of us really have a place that understands our issues.

I don't know who Franki24 is or why someone would shame you or chastised you or anyone else.

Sometimes, people get on her for no reason but to hurt others. Although, we must remember that in reality we all are hurting emotionally and are more vulnerable to what

others may say to us.

I really would like to see you take a break rather than leave this site completely.

Leaving because of someone else only hurts your progress in healing.

Of course the final decision is always your choice. Please stay safe and take care of

#1 and that is you xx

[Dolphin14]

Dragonfly

I'm so sorry this happened to you. Shaming can cause great harm to someone and many people don't understand the impact. I recently had a discussion with a member about how just the words can trigger someone. I was belittled for that.

My suggestion would be to stay away from this person. Leaving gives them power and some people thrive on that.

Don't let them win. You have the right to speak and feel safe.

Agora1 suggests a break. I would rather see you do that than leave. There are members here that will lift you up as opposed to taking you down.

Sending you healing vibes

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[Hidden in reply to Dolphin14]

You are absolutely right, words can trigger many of us who already suffer from anxiety. I was shamed by words of my hollier than thou family. That’s the price for speaking up my own truth but I’m not afraid anymore. I’m sorry whoever belittled you. Good on you for not taking on the abusive member. Yes cut it out like they are just an appendix we don’t need. Hope this is a safe site since I’m new.

[Dolphin14 in reply to Hidden]

Welcome to the community. You will find many caring people here. You are one of them. You reached out to speak regarding our feelings of shame.

I was also shamed by family. It leaves deep wounds and they take so much work and pain to heal.

I'm happy you have been able to heal your painful wounds. It's a great feeling to find our voice and own our truth.

No one should be shamed. It should not be happening in a place we should feel safe and supported.

Thank you for joining our community.

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[Hidden in reply to Dolphin14]

Thank you very much Dolphin14 for sharing your story with me. I’m very touched by your warm and sincere welcome me into this community and I hope I can do the same for you and other members. We are here because we experience pain and suffer, for me since childhood led up to adulthood now. It is an everyday processing the pain and hurt and there is no quick fix or magic wand to erase. I can only steer away from abusive people and focus on my healing.

I appreciate all kindness we can share with each other virtually here. Best wishes.

[Hidden]

I am so very sorry, Dragonfly. Please remember that, although it is beyond awful to get shamed, this is a reflection of their own problems and immaturity and has nothing to do with you. People who do this do not like themselves at all, so they try to make themselves feel better by getting onto others. It is absolutely disgusting behavior.

[Dolphin14 in reply to Hidden]

Agree. It's a form of emotional abuse that can cause great damage. Unfortunately, there are many people who don't understand this.

❤️🐬

[Hidden in reply to Dolphin14]

Exactly. It is utter disguisting and inexcusable that there are some people who feel entitled to destroy another's sense of safety. If the victim isn't strong enough to ward them off, this causes incredible hurt and damage.

I haven't seen this franki person on here, which leads me to a scary suspicion. We have at least one on here who has had a history of being on here under one alias, while at the same time creates other aliases to attack on pm.

[Dolphin14 in reply to Hidden]

We have to be safe and we are fortunate that some of our fellow community members are keeping an eye on the obvious,

[Hidden in reply to Dolphin14]

So true!

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Well said! I can’t agree more. Absolutely disgusting.