My mom?

[GustheGrinch]

Please do not beat up too much on this one. I pledged to myself that I was to be always open and honest here with you folks. I stopped contacting my mom almost two years ago when it just became too much for me. I know! I know! Blood is thicker than water and it's always darkest before the dawn, but I prefer Gatorade and electric lighting. My mom is very old and my sisters control her like a puppet. It's really not healthy to have a relationship with them and I'm an 🐴 when I don't. If I can not have a single grown up discussion with someone without everyone getting angry I feel they are not my kind of person. Family or no.

[Opportunity]

I’m hitting all your posts today! 🤣🤣. I 100% agree with you! There’s a great website, written by the same guys that wrote the book Boundaries I think. It’s called outofthefog.website and it is a great place for learning boundaries and how to deal with toxic behavior. I liked the site because it helped me put a name to certain behaviors and learn how to deal with them. For example: invalidation, triangulation, gaslighting. I didn’t really know what I was experiencing until i checked out that site. And then, I followed the directions on the site like a freaking recipe and my life improved. You may want to check it out. (Or not! No worries!!).

Bottom line, I think you’re doing the right thing by distancing yourself from people who are getting angry every time they talk, and possibly invalidating and triangulating, shaming, blaming, and bullying…. And the list goes on…

[GustheGrinch in reply to Opportunity]

I am so grateful to you right now, Opportunity. I find myself already looking for your reply.