Why would my spouse throwing my degree and graduation pictures away depress me and cause me to feel defeated?

[Artemis38]

My soon to be ex husband threw away my college degree and graduation pictures. He says he misplaced them but I searched the house and I can't find them. I'm crushed because the University of Ashford no longer exists. This is material stuff so it shouldn't bother me but it does.

[MadBunny]

It's understandable that you feel crushed. It's an important part of your life , and the pictures and degree are a reminder of your amazing achievement, of which you are justifiably proud. It's even harder because the University has gone, and they are a tangible memento of it. Sending you hugs and warm wishes from the UK 🤗🐰

[Hidden]

Something you worked hard and long. A missing part of your memories. Not a very nice thing to do. Jealousy and revenge not good emotions

[Hidden]

Hello

Yes it would bother you that was a big achievement in your life and those were your memories so you will feel crushed hurt and upset

I am sorry this has happened the pictures look like they have gone but no one and nothing can take away your memories they are yours forever

If you went on Facebook I wonder if you could get any pictures up on there and get them printed of , I know not the pictures of you but still something

I hope hurt and disappointment will ease soon x

[EndUser13]

That's awful! What a pathetic, spiteful thing to do to someone.

If I were in your shoes I wouldn't think of these as small things, as a couple of people already said they're important for what they represent- your achievements. This being said, no one can take away your actual achievements.

[Opportunity]

He misplaced them? Ugh…. I hate that feeling of lack of control over my own stuff. It’s like, “Don’t touch my stuff!!” It seems so …unfair.

Soon-to-be ex husband? …can I get kind of philosophical for a second? It sounds like there are a lot of things going on right now in your life. My philosophical thought is that the diploma is like a mini-representation of your marriage. How are they the same? Did he say one thing and do another? If so, my heart goes out to you. 🤗. And if I’m super wrong, my heart goes out to you again for putting up with my crappy analogy. 🤗

I just posted about how stressed I am, and how stress is invisible sometimes. I’m wondering if you might be invisibly stressed out too.