A Quick Question

[Dragon3695]

Why is it so hard for someone to love you no matter what changes in your life you are struggling with personally? I am not talking addictions or problems like that because that is a whole other topic. I am talking about changes like losing weight, exercising more, being more social, eating healthier, and more. You all get the picture. All I want to know is why you think it is a problem for so many to basically love unconditionally.

[Dolphin14]

I don't know if humans can love unconditionally. Just my opinion.

Great that you have done so many things to help yourself.

That should be something you do for you, not for someone else. It's great self care and will benefit you in the long run.

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[Midori]

Difficult question. Some people are attracted to strong partners, others to weak partners, according to what their perceived need is.

As a relationship proceeds and develops, the dynamic of the couple changes, and the feelings of the partners change too, either to adjust (ideally), or into conflict, which can, eventually lead to the breakdown of the relationship, unless something like couple's therapy can help.

This is putting it bluntly.

Although what you are saying seems to be that one partner has now lost weight and found confidence, and is now more outgoing, which is perhaps causing the other partner to fear that they might lose them to another?

We each have our fears about relationships, and I don't think it is possible to love unconditionally for ever, because relationships are movable feasts, with times of emotional famine interspersed.

Cheers, Midori

[Daveacr1959]

I think only moms and god can do that . I have been married 42 years and my wife is saying she is tired of me. After I was diagnosed with cancer 18 months ago. And had to sell my business and struggle for my sanity. For richer and poor and sickness and health.. it’s a tough road at times. I am in remission and she wants me to act like my old self.