Mental health and love.

I realised that I truly fell in love for the first time in my life. Unfortunately I got depressed and they dumped me. I understand that it's hard to relate to those of us that are struggling. What do people do when their love is unrequited?

[Rain72]

Oh, gosh. I’m sorry to hear that, CM. I fell hard for a man many years ago. It was unrequited too, and I was a mess when we broke up. I never thought I’d get over it. To be honest, I haven’t been in a relationship since, so I’m probably not the best person to give you advice. However, one thing I’ve learned in all this time alone is that it wasn’t love. Unrequited love isn’t love. I’ve watched the few people I know who have great relationships and they’re best friends. They would never leave one another in hard times, or make the other feel less than or unloved. So, that’s what I know. 💕

[CatEyez]

Unrequited love is as old as time... That doesn’t make it any easier to experience, especially while also dealing with depression.

The first thing is to accept yourself. Be gentle with you.

When you feel you can emotionally stand up again, maaaaybe look at the other person’s criticisms of you, and decide whether they have merit.

Then take action on something that makes YOU feel good. What is something you would like to do, but haven’t had time?

Don’t let your distress make you focus on the person who has left. Instead, work on aspects of yourself that perhaps the next person will be able to appreciate more.

Good luck!

[Tigglypoo]

Hello i too have been shut out as my anxiety got the better of me a few times and I asked for space ,he took it as rejection and backed off . .First few weeks he loved bombed me and I thought this was my ideal man .being on my own was very hard it took few weeks to realise this man wasn't the one .so I concentrated on myself and doing what I wanted, was very hard as he lives across the road and that bad as I see all the coming and goings .your worth more than he ca give you and you will get over it .Good luck x

[pink318]

Hi- I’m so sorry to hear this. When I broke up with my past boyfriend, I thought I will never love again. I was deeply hurt but after a year I started dating again and that man is now my husband.

Give yourself time to heal. Do things that you will enjoy so your focus is not on the pain. Talk to someone you can trust. It may be difficult right now but please stay strong. Feel free to post anytime, we are here for you.

I hope you will feel better soon. Take care of yourself. Keep us posted. God bless.