Help needed

[DarkTrees]

Got into a disagreement with my wife on Christmas Eve which led to my third divorce. We still talk and I helped her to start moving on with someone else and it nearly killed me. Today being Valentine’s Day was really hard being alone. Have been doing pills, smoking weed, to feel numb n burned myself today just to feel different pain for a change. I just don’t know what to do and I don’t have anyone to talk to about it.

[Efthimiades]

Do you love yourself? Pretty sure it starts with that. I have low self esteem ( many issues there) which brings me to sabatog... I ruin most personal relationships... I'm married now to a nice gentleman & I don't feel worthy. Ever. Maybe we should start with trying to love ourselves ( for real) I've cut myself, smoked weed, over drank, but the issues are still there. Let her move on & be genuinely happy for her. Fuck valentines day & start fresh tomorrow "!💕💗

[Agora1]

DarkTrees, you now have someone to talk to about what you are going through.

As you can see, doing pills, smoking weed as well as burning yourself cannot take away the inner pain that you are feeling right now. Talking with others who have gone through the same thing is what you need now so as not to feel so alone in the world.

You say you don't know what to do but know that life isn't about being with another to feel loved or wanted. If you don't feel that within yourself, then you are unable to give completely to another. Your divorce is still fresh. You need time to grieve that loss.

I'm glad that you found this safe, supportive site. I'd like to Welcome you and hope we can help you go forward on a new path. xx

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I know that your ex wife is moving on. But that was her choice. That doesn't make you bad , worthless or nothing. That means she wasn't meant for you

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Welco DarkTrees

I am very sorry u are feeling like this. Don't even feel bad for burning urself, it pain that made u do that. I am happy thou u realized and came to this site. In this site, we understand what u are going thru, we all been there. Many people have taken this valentine day on a very high note which is not a problem but don't let it ruin u.. Memorie of u and her will linger in ur mind till I don't know, but u need to fix up the pieces of your life and move forward. Just as she has moved on, move as well. Welcome again

[PapaDocs]

I suggest that you avoid the substances and hurting yourself not only because they negatively affect you but prevents you to think properly and have the correct attitude as well. What these provide are not just temporary but leave scars externally and internally and set you back even more. If your house was hit by a tornado what do you do? You rebuild or sometimes you move. What happened to you is truly hard and it is understandable that you are still reeling and maybe woozy from the pain and trauma. Start by getting help, lots of it, trusted friends or relatives. Consider getting help and advice from a pastor at a nearby church. Just talking to him might help you and give you some guidance.

[catch_the_music]

Sorry for your situation. Divorce is painful. There are people that can help. Divorcecare.org has group meetings in several churches and online. Take a look at their website and locate a group near you. They cover topics like Hurt, Recovery, Anger, Loneliness, Fears and Anxiety, many more. I have friends that highly recommend these groups. They really appreciate the support of others and the prayer. Prayers that you can fully get back to living well! God Bless!