What Are You Grateful For?

[Starrlight]

I’m grateful for some things I’ve relearned about myself and others lately ... im not taking things so personally anymore... in many cases when someone hurts another it is more about them than it is about the one who the harm is directed at. I’m really so tired of being hurt so Im quitting imagining reasons why they must hate me as it doesn’t matter and it’s not needed in my life.

I’m grateful for people who understand me

Im grateful for peace and love, faith and hope

I’m grateful for another day full of opportunity

[Hidden]

This was nice. I tend to put to much stock in others opinions as well. When I get hurt I constantly blame myself even if I am the victim. It's a struggle but you are right. It says more about the person who is hurting you than it says about the person being hurt. I have only recently started accepting that I am not as horrible as I think I am. I still fall off the wagon a lot but I am coming around to the idea. I am grateful that I am still alive and still trying to get better.

[Starrlight in reply to Hidden]

Exactly, Endofheartache!!!! ❤️ good for you! ❤️

[Nothing_but_books in reply to Hidden]

I have been taught not to trust my mind for a very long time. This has left me lost when I am hurt. I have no clear idea where I stand. So...

I am grateful for our forum, in which I am pushed to realize I am not the only one damaged by life. Where I find gratitude expressed by folks who are struggling. Even (shock! ) things they like about themselves.

These ideas are so foreign to me! I struggle to find anything to share that is heartfelt.

This, again: I am grateful for our forum.

[Starrlight in reply to Nothing_but_books]

❤️ ❤️ ❤️

[Hidden in reply to Nothing_but_books]

I understand this struggle. I was taught my whole life that I came second to everyone else so to even think about putting myself first is hard. That is why I take the blame for everything including being abused by all those that were closest to me. I even took the blame for my fathers death when he was the one who chose his fate. It's hard to know who you are when you are so focused on everyone else around you. But we are here with people who care and we are trying to better ourselves. That is what is most important. We can do this!

[Nothing_but_books in reply to Hidden]

You are an inspiration. 😀 🦜

[Hidden in reply to Nothing_but_books]

I wish I had a shocked reaction lol. That is the first time I have heard that. Thank you. I don't see myself as an inspiration just honest.

[Mumma_h]

I’m soooo grateful that I’m out of the terrible hell hole of depression I was in . I never knew a person could get THAT low and depleted of ALL joy . I think it’s trult a miracle, I honestly never ever thought it was possible I could feel any kind of happiness again, I thought I was way too far gone . But someway, somehow a miracle has happened and I’m not that way anymore 😊🌧🌈

[Starrlight in reply to Mumma_h]

I can relate Mumma_h

[Mrsbrick in reply to Mumma_h]

God gives us up and downs--if He didn't we wouldn't need Him. I am so happy for your being happy. I know I have been happy different times in my life. I was depressed when I was a toddler--hearing I was the ugly duckling compared to my Princess Sister. I was born with straight hair--she had adorable curls. I was "chunky"--she was petite and adorable. I got whippings from my dad--Princess was hit by a car when she was three--she was never to be touched. If anything went wrong, I got (I thought) twice the whipping--she couldn't have done anything wrong--her whole life. I have been married, divorced, married divorced, married. Such a shame. However, I married two abusers. I was abused the first day of marriage --in different ways. I'm not talking about fighting at first, just abused in different ways. You talk about hell holes of depression--I think I wrote the book. There are only moments of happiness--more depressive than not moments, it seems. Mumma, God be with you. This is the day that Lord hath made, let us rejoice. We can walk, talk, hear, see, smile, can do so much. These are the things I tell myself. I pray we all can feel joy in the morning.

[JazzyJess]

I’m grateful for my GP appointment today - I had my antidepressants increased and I have been referred to physio for my back pain that I’ve had for 8 years and have done nothing about until now x

[Starrlight in reply to JazzyJess]

Best to you

[Mrsbrick]

Jazzy Jess, back pain causes depression. I don't remember when mine started. I have pain in different parts of my body. We can't do the things we think we would like to do. That's depressing. I wish you well.