I"M NOT FLIPPING READY

[13ga]

step dad had a stroke tonight...

i dunno if im rdy for this.

[Dolphin14]

I'm so sorry to read this. What is his condition?

[Shnookie]

So sorry 😐 to hear about your stepdad. R U close to your stepdad ? U would be surprised 😮 that U might very well rise to this situation. Do U have a therapist U can reach out to ? I’m 62 and have dealt with many of these kinds of situations. I know it can seem scary. U must remember that everyone in this group is hear 4 U. I’m shnookie and am here 4 U and am giving U a big hug. The most impt thing now is for your stepdad to receive the proper

medical care. And U and your family follow the foctor’s Orders and give your stepdad all the love and support

Hugs 🤗 S

[Hidden]

I’m so so sorry to read this this morning. What is his prognosis? We are here for you. 🌺💜🌺💜🤗🤗🤗

[Hidden]

I'm sorry to hear this.

[Hb2003]

I am so sorry about that sending my kindness love and support to you ❤️❤️❤️

[Starrlight]

Sending strength to you (((((((((((

[Hidden]

I'm sorry to hear this. How serious was it? Strokes are serious, but many people can recover from them, Stay strong.What kind of medical support do you have available?

Beyond this forum do you yourself have support and someone close by to be able to talk with.?

How are you helping both yourself and family?

[Hidden]

I’m sorry to hear that Rob. Sending you much love and lights 🙏xxx

[Agora1]

13ga, somehow I missed your post last night.

I am so very sorry to hear about your stepdad's stroke.

I don't think we are ever really ready for something like this.

Please let us know how he is doing.

Let us also know how you are doing.

This is when you need friends the most.

[13ga]

i want to thank everyone for their support....

things were sounding a little more hopeful this morning - my stepdad was showing some signs of movement....

but he's declined thru the day... and due to covid my mom hasn't been allowed to visit him in the hospital - when he could still recognize and converse with her... and now that ability is gone.

SO ONLY NOW - will she (and me) be allowed to visit him - after all he was, is effectively no more... so we can say goodbye to his husk... before we pull the plug on life support.... tomorrow....

as if this isn't hard enough - i have a narcissist for a brother - who's entire vision of life - is based on monetary value - and what's in it for HIM.

i'll be doing my best not to kick him in the head - if he starts fracking complaining about his fracking problems - which are like fleas compared to what our mom is about to go thru.... inconsiderate donkey butt that he is.

i'm obviously not in a good place... and there's far worse to come after tomorrow.... in particular dealing w/ my brother.... and not the least of which - i expect that my mom will follow within a year now... as often happens with long-married couples... and i get the joy of dealing w/ this ahole of a brother - who can't fracking wait to move into her house!!!!

so i'm w/ my mom last night as she is contemplating every single scenario with her husband of a few months shy of 50 yrs - and she interrupts these thoughts to express her concern about not wanting to listen to my frakin brother complaining about his "whoas".

oh the joy to come.... not.

...

i can't thank you guys enough for your thoughts and support... it means alot...

[Agora1 in reply to 13ga]

Tears are whelming up in my eyes dear friend. Right now, it's about you

supporting your mom, she needs you. I hope you gather up the strength

you will need in the next coming week or so. We will respect your privacy

but know that we are here for you should you need a shoulder to lean on.

Keeping you in my thoughts. x

[13ga in reply to Agora1]

ty so much agora... i can't even verbalize what your words mean to me... tears are running down my face ....

if we were on the phone... it'd be kinda laughable; the lump in my throat... i can't speak...

ty soooo much.... 💜xxx

and to everyone else as well.... tytytyty 💜xxx

[Hidden in reply to 13ga]

We were talking about 👋party n we missed u. Hang in there Rob. You got this!

[Hb2003 in reply to 13ga]

I am crying I feel so sad

[FifLove in reply to 13ga]

Offering my prayers and support🙏

[Hidden in reply to 13ga]

I just read your update. I am so very sorry to hear this! Hugs🙂

[Hidden in reply to 13ga]

I’m thinking of you my friend. There’s not enough words to express how very sorry I am. Take all the time you need, come here for support when needed. Emotion overload. Too much and overwhelming I know. Sending you hugs. 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗💜🌺💜🌺💜

[Hb2003 in reply to 13ga]

❤️❤️❤️🫂🫂

[Dolphin14]

I'm so sorry. My thoughts are with you and your family. These are difficult things to have to deal with.

I've been through those with a family member. Massive stroke with no hope.

Covid has destroyed our ability to be with loved ones in the hospital. This is another tragic part of covid that selfish people are not seeing.

Please know you are not alone. People are here for you.

[Hidden]

I could be wrong, but he might not want to. Please respect this. Put yourself in his shoes.

[13ga]

i only have time for a quick update....

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i'm very angry and frustrated this morning... and bouncing from there to wanting to run away from everything & everyone and feeling alone and isolated and not wanting to be here. i don't want to deal with this.

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we removed all life support from my step dad yesterday - and as of this morning - he's still holding on.

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i'm angry beyond words that in this country - we can provide a dignified and peaceful end of life ONLY to our pets, and insects.

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this morning my mom asked me - what happens if this goes on for years?? she'll be bankrupted, and living in torture.... how the mother frack do i tell her - worst case - he'll starve to death in just over a month!?!?!?!!?!?

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we're all living in grieving limbo - and heading back to hospital shortly - so we can torture ourselves for untold hours potentially to go home and return and start again tomorrow!!!!

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there's NOTHING great about this crap. this sucks.

[Hb2003 in reply to 13ga]

I am really sorry 😞 I am sending my thoughts and support and kindness ❤️❤️🌷🌹