Single and frustrated

[Art_lover]

I was single for 11 years before I met my ex which we dated for 2 months. Its about a year since our breakup yet I still miss her. I struggle to forget about her as my social anxiety makes it difficult to meet other people not forgetting the pandemic strictions. I get frustrated when thinking about my singleness and I don't know how to shake off this feeling.

[Catsamaze ADAA Volunteer]

Hi Art Lover. It’s paradoxical but I’ve found In my life that the more I’ve concentrated on the need to be in a relationship and based all of my self worth on that need the less likely it was that I’d be successful. When others perceive a neediness or at worst a desperation you become less attractive to them. Take this time of being single as an opportunity to get to know and like yourself by yourself. The rest will take care of itself in time.

[Art_lover in reply to Catsamaze]

😪 I thought I did that 11 years of my singleness.

[Catsamaze ADAA Volunteer in reply to Art_lover]

Kudos to you for that. It’s not a given no matter how long someone has been single. Sorry the recent relationship didn’t work out but it’s proof that you can have one. There will be others. I had many, many dates and short relationships before finding a lasting partner.

[Art_lover in reply to Catsamaze]

Thank you Catsamaze I really hope I find a lasting partner this time around.

[jessicjames]

Sometimes being alone can be so frustrating and annoying . I'm a person of isolation and solitude. But I feel like even though it gives me some anxiety though but atleast no the major depression which today's fake and snake people gives. I'm safe from getting heart broken by new friends and people around. Being single is not a bad thing at all. You get to know more about yourself. You can be friends with good people and live your liife your way. Just wait for the right time to hit you with the perfect match until then you have time to modify/work on yourself. For my anxiety I used to read different remedies,tips and advices. They liyterally helps alot. ezcareclinic.com/top-3-ment... This one is my favorite. If you have some time, do give it a read. It can help you.

[Art_lover in reply to jessicjames]

jessicjames for the 11 years it didn't bother me that much but this time it does but I'm trying not to let it bother me. Thanx for the link I'll check it out.