Posts .... no support

[Marysblue]

I just read where someone was leaving group beacause they got no responses.

I then immediately see someone who posted 9 hours ago and got no response.

This is really sad.

[Ava20]

Hi Mary,I felt the same when I joined a few days back but I feel you just need to give people chance. We all are facing the same struggle. And everytime its not possible to respond so spontaneously. I received a warm welcome from the people around. I just realised one needs to give spqce and time to others around us. If u see someone leaving, give them the reason to stay back. All we can do is hold on to one another whenevr we can.

[Marysblue in reply to Ava20]

Please people don't respond to my post. Look for posts where nobody's responded and talk to them. Please.

[hypercat54]

Yes I agree it's sad. Sometimes people give no information though and it's hard to answer that. Also we can only answer what we know about so if I see a very young person talking about say health anxiety I can't usually contribute. When I was a lot newer here I used to try and answer everyone who got no responses even if just to say nice to meet you. I soon stopped that though after firstly 9 out of 10 didn't respond. But mostly because even though I was very nice I got a number of them getting aggressive or very nasty with me., After half a dozen of those I stopped doing it.

To protect myself now I check someone out first and if I think they seem ok will try answering them. If they get funny or don't reply I don't bother any more.

There are a few on here I never touch with a barge pole and I don't want to draw attention to myself so ignore them. It's sad but that's life. Who wants to be hassled or even trolled? No way.

[Artemis38]

How about we all support each other but posting under someone who doesn't have any posts.

[goldieoldie]

I have to agree here,I have very little response to recent posts and its made me feel more isolated in some respects,on the other hand I see very new people and they will get some reponse ,but it peters out.I always try to respond and I do try,but others dont seem to bother or maybe that should be cant relate.?

[Hidden]

This is what I wrote just a second ago in reply to BlePeppermint's post.

I think many things are at play here:

-what unfortunately happens is that "cliques" form, where people respond to who they are used to.

-there are "ongoing cases" that people are working on that wipe them out, so they log off as soon as they get done with their "ongoing case" for that day

-lots more people see your post than respond to it. People want to help, but sometimes can't because they can't identify with the issue. People contribute to what they can personally identify with.

[Marysblue in reply to Hidden]

Are there moderators on here that can step in when they see someone that's been ignored . Just to let them know someone's there. Just an idea I have no idea how this works.

[Hidden in reply to Marysblue]

I love your idea! Both our moderators (Admin14 and adaaadmin) have been asked to step in before, but not for that role. I think that's a wonderful idea! I was part of another HU community with two moderators. They explained in the description that they would only get involved if necessary. Maybe our moderators have the same approach?

[Missy_D]

I prefer to reply to posts that have the padlock. I also check out previous posts and if they are just repeating themselves and not heeding any advice I won't bother - whats the point. Sometimes I haven't got any suggestions.

Also I don't come on here every day so sometimes I will miss posts completely because of how much has been posted.

[FearIsALiar]

Hope you are doing okay Marysblue. 💙🦋

[Musicalmind]

Hello, I hope your doing well . Been a little busy lately which is good. It keeps my mind on the present.