Odd one out

[Ava20]

Hmm I'm feeling that I'm the odd one out even in this group, I know its unhealthy but since I put my first post i have checked it like a 100 times waiting for some response. And to see none makes me feel that m i odd even for this. I got 800 contacts phone but never get a call. I feel like no one needs me n im just alone

[Hidden]

Somedays massive response sometimes none - keep posting you will get support

[Ava20 in reply to Hidden]

Yes I'll post, I really need to go on or I'll just let the life be suck out of me.

[Hidden]

People just post innermost feelings and sometimes you can answer and others not sure what to advise or reply - happens

[Starrlight]

Just want to say hi!

[Ava20 in reply to Starrlight]

Hi 🎈

[Starrlight in reply to Ava20]

😊

[Sillysausage234]

Hi ....you’re definitely not the odd one out ...we are all in this sh*t together

[Ava20 in reply to Sillysausage234]

I know, I was just feeling way low and this is the first time I joined a support group. Thank you for your response it means a lot to me.

[Sillysausage234 in reply to Ava20]

You’re very welcome glad you don’t feel so alone now ,this is a great community to be part of .

[Reading_Rando]

This virtual world we live in is so strange, we shout our fear and lonliness into the ether and hope the other disembodied consciencenesses hear our voice amidst the cacaphony of others doing the same thing. Your not alone.

[Ava20 in reply to Reading_Rando]

For the first time in life I'm thankful to this virtual world for connecting me to other souls like me. I have never seen this virtual realm go be supportive in my case but here I'm being proved wrong by this strong support from you guys. I'm so glad to have found so many of you.

[NoNo19]

Hey Ava20 I can totally relate to this feeling. Funny that it came up today because I officially decided today that although I didn't THINK I had anything else to live for, (because I feel like I've done all I needed to do) that that doesn't mean that I don't have other people to live for and/or don't inspire them in other ways. Examples:

1) Yesterday, I went out and bought a houseplant for the house. Just something to do for me (since I rarely buy myself anything) and it totally opened up the space! I showed a picture to my mom and she said "You inspired me. I just bought two plants for the front porch."

2) I have a natural hairstyle called Sisterlocks. I wanted something low-maintenance and thought it was the best thing for my hair. I get compliments all the time. Two of my girl relatives (cousin and Aunt) were inspired to get the same look for their hair.

Granted, these are two things that are seemingly insignificant in this grand thing we call life, but it did help me to realize that people pay more attention to me than I realize (even if they don't say it and/or don't respond ;)) But that overall has nothing to do with my overall worth as a person.

So what am I saying. You're WORTH it! Even if that doesn't always get validated by other people.

You're NOT alone! This board is full of people who feel that they are alone. Yet, here we are as a community oftentimes going through the same things. (Unfortunately, sometimes we get so caught up in those things that bog us down to reach out to others)

You're NOT odd! But each and every one of us IS unique!

Lastly, as they say in "Who Wants to be a Millionaire?", use a lifeline, phone a friend. It may seem odd because we're the ones in fact who need help, but how do they know we need it if we don't let them know. They could very well assume that all is well. Let them know it isn't and this is your time to need them.

Love you so much and you're already doing great by being here!

[Ava20 in reply to NoNo19]

Your response has really filled my morning with hope. I was just staying in bed for last 4 days and doing nothing at all locked in my room. But today I feel this sliver of hope within me. Today I don't want to just be in bed and I'll make sure that I do my research work and prepare for tomorrow's presentation. I won't let my future sink bec of these bad thoughts I have been having. I'll work on it. It doesn't matter if I don't have anyone physically around me to make me feel that but I have found people like you and I be thankful forever for getting this chance to meet such wonderful people like you. You inspire me too. Thanks for igniting the hope within me.

[NoNo19 in reply to Ava20]

Ava20, that is such the biggest compliment ever that 'inspires' me to keep going, pushing, and reaching out to others. It was like a warm hug. 🤗 I hope all goes well with your research and presentation. But even if you just take a shower, that's ok too. 😉 But you're right, your future isn't over, but we would never get a chance to see what it is like if we just give up. Let us know how you made out today. I'm sure it will move others. (Literally 😁)

Peace and Blessings 😙

[Ava20 in reply to NoNo19]

Hi My presentation happened today and thanks to you all I didn't choke completely, even though I wouldn't call it the best performance but I was able to entertain 3 of the professors for 2 hours and I tried to not be too anxious or move my leg and fingers continuously in tension. I was able to control those movements which make me go in the deep anxious zone. And the way I was feeling just 2 days back I'm feeling really proud of myself that I took bath, got ready and gave a not so bad presentation, sucj that the profs commented that the project which I have in mind is really unique and they would be interested to see how it turns out. I need to work on my presenting by trying to control my anxious side further but atleast I know now that the thoughts I have and the research work I'm doing is not worthless.

All of these responses really gave me that feeling of not being alone in this

[NoNo19 in reply to Ava20]

That is sooo AWESOME!! I'm super proud of you! 🤗 Yes, you absolutely have something to contribute. What are you working on exactly? (Sounds like something on the realm of genius.) 😉

[Ava20 in reply to NoNo19]

Haha you are embarrassing me now 🙈🙈🙈🙈. I'm from political science field but nownmy research will be an intersubjectional study of anthropology, cultural sociology, dramaturgy, performative study and political science with an aim to find out the significance of myths in the lives of humans and how culture defined in this symbolic, coded mythical sense explains the contemporary political scenario too, where the leaders manufacture these myths and sells to us on a everday basis by creating a divide of sacred and profane in the society.

[Hidden]

U r far from,the "odd one out".Sending u a virtual hug with the hope u know we all care here.

[Ava20 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you this really made me smile.

[hypercat54]

Well I think it's far too soon to assume that as you have only been here a day! I looked back at your other post and you did get 4 replies. I did notice though that you haven't yet come in and acknowledged any of them. If you do you will get others responding. I admit if someone doesn't reply too much to me or I feel I have helped them I get discouraged and am less likely to reply in the future. Don't forget we are all here for our own issues and it takes energy to reply and depression can make you tired.The bet way to be part of this group (or any) is to join in and take an active part. That way people can get to know you better and will be more likely to respond.

[Hidden in reply to hypercat54]

It's true, it can be hard to reply sometimes due to the depression. Oftentimes I am on here, wanting show support to someone but just don't have the energy to compose a response. Some times all I feel up to is giving posts a "like." You do what you can, when you can. And that's right, posts get seen more and then more people respond if you go back and answer the replies.

[hypercat54 in reply to Hidden]

Yes exactly.

[Ava20 in reply to Hidden]

I get it. When you yourself are in a bad place like I was last night its next to impossible to support the other person in the same cause. I'm getting to know how this works and I'm feeling really supportive. Thanks. 😊

[hypercat54 in reply to Ava20]

We all get times when we can only take and not give and that's fine. When you are in a really bad place yourself it's very difficult to help others. Again welcome to the site

[Ava20 in reply to hypercat54]

I'll not giv up and keep trying to be a part of the converstation. It was just my first time in a group and I didn't know, i was already in a bad mental state and when there was no one here it made me feel so invisible and unwanted. But seeing so much support by the time I'm up now I feel a shot of energy in me. Thank you so much.

[Marysblue]

First time I posted it happened to me. But just the one time. Sometimes the posts get out of order on my feed, I'll see a new post that no one's responded to way down past older posts. Glad you're here and spoke up and didn't just give up.

Are you doing okay now?

[Ava20 in reply to Marysblue]

Yes I just dozed off overthinking and now after waking up I feel a spark of hope within me seeing so many people being there for me. It means a lot. And so much relatable to see I'm no alone.

[Agora1]

Hi Ava20 believe me, you are just as important as anyone else. You are definitely not alone.

I am on this forum 7 days a week, morning, noon and night responding when I feel I can add

something to someone's struggle. I can only go by my own experiences with anxiety and agoraphobia. I usually don't respond to depression since I have been fortunate to not have experienced that issue.

I'd be more than happy to reach out to you if you let me know what's going on in your life? xx

[Ava20 in reply to Agora1]

Thanks, l would really love to talk you as well. I have been so lost for a really long time. But now I feel I need to find myself back no matter whqt it takes. I have let these feelings control me a lot. And I cannot let my life slip away like that and doing nothing abt it. Thank you for your support.

[bonkers65]

You're as much a part of this group as anybody. And sometimes I don't respond to someone's post because I don't know what to say. But I do try to offer support.

[Ava20]

Thank you so much for acknowledging my presence and making me feel like a part of this.

[Ava20]

After reading all these replies I'm feeling like a part of something bigger , I never felt this even while talking to the people who call them my friend. I get what you saying. I have also been alone most of my life with many friends on surface but none in the real sense. And these responses have made me feel far more better than those people could over the years. Thanks 🎈

[Hidden]

Welcome (belatedly) to HU and I hope you find it supportive! I can relate to feeling like the odd one out as I felt like that when I first joined too. This is like the only social media site I have joined, so it's been a learning experience. I hope you are feeling better today.

[Ava20 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you Phil. I'm feeling a lot better today than I was just 2 days back. I'm finding it really supportive to have found this platform and meeting people like you.

[Hidden in reply to Ava20]

Good to hear! And I'm glad your presentation went ok and it's behind you now. Great job! Hope you continue to feel better. Keep us posted. 👍

[Hidden]

Oh. This sis the same thing with Facebook. People add everyone on social media but these people are not usually even friends or talking to them.

I literally deleted all my fb contacts when I seen that I had hundreds of people on my fb and I talk to none of them