Depression is real

[Blue181234]

Lack of job and support from your family can lead to serious pain regret and depression and sometimes people feel like giving up and the people you stay with treat you like shit because you are not able to provide as they do . it's never easy

[FriendlyDude]

You’re right, it isn’t easy, and depression is real. But so is recovery and healing!

Whatever the regrets are, look at them with new eyes. See them simply as an indicator that there’s something better for you, and let that encourage you to make meaningful changes in your life to make it the best it can be!

I wish you the best! Good luck with everything

[Sprinkle1]

I think I understand the place you are in with yourself, been there!!! But there is help and support, coming here is one place. If you have Ins. will it pay for therapy, I have learn so much in therapy, was able to throw of regrets, used them as lessons, just like with mistakes, learnt from them and carried on down my life road. And let me tell you I have had one hell of a life road, but I am still here and thriving at 78 1/2!!!!*** There is a great book I like to refer people to, I read it 30 years ago, it was in the top 10 best seller list for 7 years, by Dr. Scott Peck, "The Road less traveled".* First line first page he says "Life is Difficult" I said I wish someone had told me that when I was 16. Further down the page he quotes Buddha who said "Life is suffering, but once we transcend it, the suffering ends". Let me tell you I said "I want to transcend," so I started working on it, it took me years, thru therapy I learnt to love, respect and believe in myself. I thru off guilt, worry, the blame game, other negative ways of thinking, I joined a spiritual group where I learnt to "Live in the Moment", it is all any of us have. I became happy, carefree, but still responsible, caring and giving. I am happy when I get up and when I go to be. My life is a challenge as I suffer with clinical depression and anxiety, thankfully the med's I am on now help me keep that under control. I have a wonderful therapist, used to go to her office, because of Covid 19 she calls me twice a week, it helps keep me sane. I live by myself, my friends nearby have died or moved away, all my family are in UK . So it is me and my two cats, living on S.S. But I am OK. You are in a rough part of your road, but believe me, you have strength it will help you thru. If you are a reader, read uplifting books, Leo Buscaglia writes very uplifting books.

* I put that in to tell you Amazon has Dr. Pecks books used and new, probably Leo's books too.

I send you strength, courage, fearlessness, belief in self, love, peace and big hugs...... Write to us, we offer support and love......

[Blue181234 in reply to Sprinkle1]

Thanks

[Sabio77]

Blue181234 , glad you told us your hearts thoughts on here. You are not alone in going thru such unpleasant situation. those who treat others that way have a few underlying things within themselves they need to deal with. but first and foremost, you must forgive that person or persons. then, try to understand why they are saying such things. do they feel overwhelmed in some way? sometimes on the other hand it could be lack of understanding of how to handle a situation. they could feel exhausted. they may have certain expectations. when that happens, iv been told that setting certain expectations in relationships could make it tricky at times (such as this). so try to find a calm moment, respectfully talk things thru. ask gentle questions, no accusations. you want to understand why they feel such way. now, be ready, sometimes that person could respond either way... respectful back or unpleasant... but keep your cool about yourself and do your part of finding out their point of view, then try to share your thoughts and feelings about the situation. finally, focus on a positive solution. this may take a few times of discussion if it is not done at the right timing. but very doable to solve. Now, for you, believe in yourself. know who you are and what you are good at and what you have to offer. everyone has something positive to bring to the table in a relationship/family setting. make your list of your good points... focus on them... work on developing the needed areas as well. this is a very tuff time we live in so be patient too. let me know how things are going my friend.

[pink318]

One of my sisters was diagnosed with anxiety but she refused medication. It was hard to see her struggling. Having someone she can talk to helped her to overcome the loneliness she was going through. She also join a life group that she meets once a week online and it helps her to feel less lonely. Her mood improved a lot.

I’m so sorry you are going through this. I hope you can talk to someone you can trust. Or feel free to post anytime here. I hope you will find encouragement here and learn some coping skills. We are here for you. Please keep us posted, God bless.

[Kat_21]

Hi, I am unable to work due to an autoimmune disease. I could have seizures randomly, I'm tired most of the time to the point of exhaustion and being at a job would make me more likely to get sick and flare up which would probably kill me. I feel like a burden a lot, and at one point my mother had even told me I was using my disease as a crutch. It sucks and it really does affect you but I hope things get better for you.