A strangers view

[Iammesues]

Today a total stranger told me I have very kind eyes, but that they look sad. Has anyone ever had a stranger see their sadness? The sadness some of us don’t talk to anyone about the?

[Empath74]

Sadly, yes. I had changed my FB profile picture a while back and someone commented “you look beautiful but why so sad?” It totally caught me off guard because I hadn’t even noticed but she was right.

[Iammesues in reply to Empath74]

I was embarrassed but also intrigued by the strangers intuition

[Iammesues in reply to Empath74]

Maybe it was a real friend that noticed. It’s interesting when someone sees through you

[Empath74 in reply to Iammesues]

It was my aunt. I haven’t seen her in years and yet she was the only one who saw what I didn’t even notice

[texasbonnet]

I have had people say I look sad or angry or sick. Someone told me that our eyes are windows to our soul. I know I always check out a person's face if I need to speak with them. I call it testing the waters.

[Iammesues in reply to texasbonnet]

Yes I think we all know that expression. At this point I think my eyes look empty of caring. Unable to connect eye to eye with anyone. Therefore sad and empty

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Hi, how have you been doing??? You can send me a personal message if you like. I'm sorry that you're sad. My life isn't going so great either.

[Downandout123]

Yes. This has happened to me quite frequently in stores. People would say something to make me smile, or say-"Cheer up-you look like you lost your best friend".

[Iammesues in reply to Downandout123]

Rather than asking what makes you you. What’s brings sadness?

[Downandout123 in reply to Iammesues]

What do you mean?

[Iammesues in reply to Downandout123]

Meaning people feel comfortable making a comment that someone looks sad, when it would be more empathetic to ask what’s making them sad

[Downandout123 in reply to Iammesues]

I guess people feel like they don't want to pry.

[texasbonnet in reply to Downandout123]

Someone once to me, "You look like your have lost your best friend." I had just learned that my dearest friend of about 30 years had died overnight. It has been 10 years and I still cry whenever I think of her or I am reminded of her.

[Downandout123 in reply to texasbonnet]

I am so sorry for your loss.☹😔

[texasbonnet in reply to Downandout123]

Thank you.

[texasbonnet in reply to Downandout123]

Thank you.

[Iammesues in reply to texasbonnet]

I’m so sorry. That’s so special to have a friend for so long. You must have many beautiful memories

[texasbonnet in reply to Iammesues]

You've so sweet and I appreciate you.

[Starrlight]

Once when I was working at an art store and was getting to know new people one said, “How can such a happy girl be so sad.” Behind the smile he saw my pain. I was grieving my brother who took his life. Later I told one person and he stated that my brother was a coward for leaving the way he did. I feel I’m still grieving sometimes. It’s something you never get over.

[Iammesues in reply to Starrlight]

I’m still grieving my dad-12 years it’s been. It would be interesting to ask someone what they see in our eyes specifically. Guess we don’t hide things as well as we think

[Starrlight in reply to Iammesues]

I’m sorry for your loss. Yes right!? What do we see in our own eyes do you think? Sometimes I see worry and fear and yearning for better in mine. What do you see in yours

[Iammesues in reply to Starrlight]

I see very clearly someone who gave up on happiness

[Downandout123 in reply to Iammesues]

This comment is SO, SO sad, and I'm sorry, but I can't agree more. ☹😔

[Starrlight in reply to Iammesues]

Aww Iammesues I’m so sorry. I wish you well. I was at a point recently when I gave up on happiness but it found me anyway. I wish this for you.

[Iammesues in reply to Starrlight]

It found you? How?

[Starrlight in reply to Iammesues]

Well out of the blue my major panic attacks stopped. Just like that. And then I did give a few meds another shot and after so much torture it’s now possible to be happy and peaceful. I still have my times.

Do you think your sadness is from past experiences or heredity of depression or 50/50?

[Iammesues in reply to Starrlight]

Past experiences

[Starrlight in reply to Iammesues]

I suggest healing through seeing a therapist as this has helped me. Do you feel that’s something you would want to try if you aren’t already seeing one?

[Iammesues in reply to Starrlight]

Yes definitely need to try. I never have

[Iammesues]

Oh the irony. You’re smiling and your sadness shows

[Iammesues]

A smile is a smile. Never insane

[Iammesues]

Has anyone ever sat in front of you and asked if you know why you are sad? No one has ever asked me