Please please help I am worrying about every single thing the minute I wake.Worry about my partner getting out of bed, worry about making a cup of tea, worry about taking a shower, worry about making a phone call.
I am struggling to see any end to this
Hello
I've been dealing with some uncharacteristic amounts of anxiety myself very recently. It is not the best feeling.
Have you felt anxiety before? Do you have any coping methods that work we for you?
I've been looking at a technique that is designed to biologically disrupt those thought patterns. It involves filling a bowl with very cold ice water. You hold your face in the ice water for 30 seconds or as long as you can hold your breath. Come up, exhale, grab your breath again and repeat. Eventually your body will start redirecting energy in your body as it's being tricked into thinking it's taking an icy dive.
If your case doesn't require such a shock to your system, I've personally found that long walks could sometimes help or doing some kind of art project. I've also decided to set up things like gift bags for people to focus on having to get items and assemble it.
I know this is a really distressing experience. Please feel free to messagee of you'd like to talk!
Believe me this is real depression. I've been through this and it's frightening. Your stomache jumps at the very thought of even doing the simplest thing and you are right by saying you can't see an end to it.
Take it from one who knows though that there is an end but you need help. When it's got to this stage it's not something you can do by yourself. Please talk to your GP. This is the first step and be totally honest with him or her. I sincerely hope that with help you will find some easing off of these symptoms and then eventually back to your normal self. Please keep in contact and tell us how you are. You feel alone at the moment but you're not. This is very common but it's rotten.
I already discuss this with my GP and am on medication, only been 2 weeks at a higher dose. I know these worries are completely irrational but it doesn’t stop them.
Please try and give it more time. A lot of the problem is the way things are at the moment. Nothing is remotely normal in our lives and it can knock us off balance so easily. Try and treat it as you would any other illness knowing the it won't last. I know it's not easy because it's so frightening but you will get there. Think of us all who have gone or are going through the same. We are with you in this x
Thank you for your kind words... just need to try and stay strong but it’s so hard. I have so many good things in my life but seem to be slipping away from due to this awful illness
Awful illness is right. That's just what it is. It's rotten and unbelievably.. unkind but it is an illness and can be treated. I was terrified of mine so it had the upper hand. When it comes now and it still does because it's clinical depression. I treat it with the disdain it deserves. This doesn't help you though does it? All I can say is time is your best friend and healer at the moment. Time for the extra Meds to get a hold and take some of this pain away. What would also make it easier as well is others understanding, most of which is non existent. Be brave and try not to let it get the upper hand. We are all here for you. Thinking of you xx
I am trying but I have so much going on in my life. I haven’t been able to work for 3 months so now frightened I will never get back.
As you say people don’t understand,not their fault how can they. I tend to keep the way I’m really feeling to myself as my partner doesn’t understand and I dont want to worry my daughter whose just 18.
Just want to see a glimmer of light at the end of the tunnel.
Thank you so much xxx
Have you ever talked about it to your partner? I ask this because when I've had a bad spell my Husband has always said 'don't shut me out,talk to me'. I think it's just as frightening for them as it is for us. When I was going through a really bad patch I found it helpfully to join a group. This may not be for you but if it is your GP could point you in the right direction. I'm a great believer in talking things through. I was a Samaritan for a number of years and often had callers who simply wanted to offload but it had to be to a stranger. Is it really impossible for you to work now as getting out is another way of getting there. Take care xx
This is what did t help as in March we all had to work from home and still are. I’m a manager and a very sociable person So eventually it really affected me. I won’t go into details but for the last 18 we’ve had relationship problems and just trying to get back on track but he doesn’t know how to deal with it.
With the anxiety I can’t settle and spend all day pacing the house, can’t even watch tv so would be really hard to just sit in front of a computer all day X
Can you get out in the open to turn your pacing into walking. I've no idea where you live and if you have open areas where you could safely walk so this is just another suggestion.
I would love to and yes I could but have got to the stage where I struggle to go out on my own.
I’m extremely anxious even going out with others. I’m supposed to be going out today with my daughter and partner but sitting here getting worked up over the thought of it but can’t tell them. Just got to try and force myself
And I'm sorry to say that's the way it will have to be for a while. It's the only way you're going to have a fighting chance. It's really hard I know it is but the more you give in the worse it will get. Just another thought. I'm a great believer in meditation. If you can meditate and it's not hard,it will teach your body and more importantly your mind to calm itself. Anyway go out today and tell this rotten illness it's not going to spoil your day. Look around you and think of all the others who are doing the same. Believe me you are not alone by any means. x
I have tried to meditate but I really struggle seems to make me more anxious
Well I did it and would love to be able say I enjoyed the day but I spent the whole day focussing how bad I felt, like I had a brick on my chest all day.
But I put on an act and got through it.
Please don’t tell me this is my life from now on 😢😢😢
No its not but it's a step forward and a kick in the teeth to your illness. I'm going to suggest something to you now. Set yourself something out of your comfort zone to do each day and do it however you feel. It's very hard when you don't feel like doing anything at all but these steps do help.
I know your right but believe it or not every day I do things out of my comfort zone as actually I haven’t got a comfort zone at the moment.I wake up every morning dreading the day ahead of me, even though i worry about every single thing I Try and tackle it. I try and give myself a pat on the back but it doesn’t make me feel any better. The longer it goes on the blacker and more anxious it seems to get.
I still believe you need to give more time for the stronger medication to take effect. Believe me I know how you feel and I wanted to feel well then and not some far off place in the future. Unfortunately it isn't how it works, there's nothing that's a quick fix however much we want it to be. It's something thats going to take time and you need to give it time. Try to stay as calm as you can,do what you can to live your life as peacefully as you can and let things take their course. It's not easy I know but it appears to be your only way forward. We all have to pretend at life to a certain extent. You are just going to have to pretend that bit harder for a while until it all eases up for you. I really hope that it isn't too long. Thinking of you.
Oh darling I’m a message away I wish I could help more your not alone there is a end you will learn to deal with this you are strong this is a little blip in your life that you’re gonna overcome it’s just gonna take a little time stay strong let’s think positive I’m here if you need me hun xx
Boy can I relate!!
I suffer unbelievable Anxiety over every little thing, like clipping my nails, showering, shaving, eating, dressing, going out, driving, phones ringing, people knocking.
Let's face it. I won't even get out of bed, and haven't for 12 years now.
Ever since my home burned,
and was completely my fault and careless.
I don't tell many people about that, which obviously caused all of my PTSD and endless Panic Attacks.
I'm taking a shower right now, to prove I can do something, besides just lie in bed.
Chris
I am sorry you are going through this, and so am I. The extra depression and anxiety came over me a few months ago and my meds are not working. When you say that you worry about making a cup of tea, or worrying about taking a shower, I can DEFINITELY relate. Is it more from the anxiety or depression do you think? Mine is like a DREAD of doing simple tasks.
Hi Whiskers16, thank you for reaching out and sharing. I have been there where I have worried about everything. Have you struggled before with anxiety? Have you ever been treated for it? For me changing my focus is huge. As soon as I start to feel that anxious thought I have to immediately change my focus. The more I practice this the more I am able to change my thoughts. I also have a bible verse that I focus on when I am struggling. I don't know what you believe but I find this very comforting. Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding... When I learn to let go of the control and know God is in control this helps me take the pressure off of me. Also, if this is something going on for a long time, please seek counseling. I also do a great breathing technique that helps me. I hope it works for you too. The 557 breathing technique is take 5 deep breaths in while thinking good thoughts about yourself like I matter, I am special, I am strong and then hold the breaths for the count of 7 focusing on those words about yourself, then let out the breath slowly for 5 seconds letting go of any anxious, self-defeating, unhealthy thoughts. I do this one to three times a sitting. Taking our focus off of the anxiety and focusing on positive uplifting things really helps. What you think is what you believe. So thinking uplifting things you believe those things but the reverse is true - thinking negative self-defeating things, you will believe those. I will be praying for you. Feel free to pm me if you'd like to chat. Hugs and God Bless
I know where you are coming from. I worry about everything too. Especially if I have to talk to people. I have bad Social Anxiety. I have to take a Xanax before I meet with my Psy. doctor. I've always been shy, but it seems to have gotten worse the older I get. I'm even hesitate to post on here.
How are you doing this week? I have been praying for you. Hugs
No change I keep trying to focus on the positive things in my life of which there are lots but so hard when you feel like this. Every morning and night I do pray To God to help me.
Thank you for your thoughts and support xxx
Keep working on thinking of positive things and saying positive self-talk. The more you do this, the more it will be a habit in your life that will make a difference. Also continue those prayers God is listening and is always with you, even when it doesn't feel like it. For me remembering He is in control and knows everything about my life past, present, and future is an encouragement and helps me know I have nothing to worry about. There are some great bible verses (bit.ly/3oHEUXO) to focus on that encourage that. Along with the Difference Poem (bit.ly/37X0PEq) and Footprints in the Sand (bit.ly/34HGL76). I will continue to be praying for you. Hugs
I just wish I could think positively instead of constantly focusing on how bad I feel and negative thoughts.
Thank you for your thoughts and prayers I really need them at the moment.
Keep trying and know you can make the change of your thoughts. Try doing that good vibes or gratitude journal. It really works. Also, make a list of things you appreciate about yourself and say it to yourself over and over. It takes time, but you will start believing it, even if you don't while you are struggling. Lastly, give yourself a break, say it is ok to struggle, but also say I will feel better. I will continue to be thinking and praying for you. Please continue to share how you are doing. pm me anytime you need to chat. Hugs
Thank you so much I need to give these things a go and stick to them I give up too easily. I’m starting talking therapy On Friday, not sure what it is but give anything a go. X
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