Boy problem

[Years-of-solitude]

My best friend just told me that he liked me and I had to break to his heart and told him that I didn’t like him back. I tried to be as gentle as possible but he looked so sad .

That day I cried to sleep because I felt so bad that I didn’t felt the same way. Now he is texting me and keeps trying but I don’t know what to do I feel soooo bad for him but I know I can’t force my feeling towards him.

[Ricardo70]

Believe me this situation is so common. When friends become close it's very common for various feelings to develop between them. It's because you have a great deal in common and enjoy spending time together. Remember us boy's tend to be less mature than girls especially as teen-agers.

Give him time, he's going through the begging stage at present and I guarantee it will probably turn to anger on his part. HOLD FIRM, stay true to your feelings, don't give in just to make him happy and yourself sad. If he does become a constant annoyance and starts making angry statements, keep the text's and speak to your parents. REMEMBER IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT IT'S HIS. YOU HAVE DONE NOTHING WRONG.

You sound like an intelligent and kind hearted person, don't change honey, stay strong, talk to your parents and girlfriends they will support you, don't try and deal with it on your own.

Sorry for the monologue.......once I get started I can't stop flapping my word hole lol.

PS the ladies on here have so much experience, they will be able to advise you better than I ever could.

[Years-of-solitude in reply to Ricardo70]

Thank you so much!

[Diazepam_survival]

This sounds exactly like a situation I was in for a very long time. I was in love with my female friend but she only saw us as friends, it was absolute torture for me spending time with her knowing that the feelings were only one sided. Looking back now the best thing she could have done was to completely cut off contact with me, this didn't happen however and we used to hang out as friends alot and I just kept trying and trying to switch off my feelings, but that was impossible for me, anyway I wasted the whole of my 20's hoping that one day she would change her mind.

The problem is even if you make it clear that nothing will ever happen between you 2 there will always be that glimer of hope in his mind if you spend any time together. Sounds drastic but in order to protect his feelings you need to leave him alone, otherwise he will waste so much time just like I did 😔

[Years-of-solitude in reply to Diazepam_survival]

Thanks for the advice!!

[Diazepam_survival in reply to Years-of-solitude]

Good luck, it's a horrible situation for both of you to be in.