I feel so alone... need to rant...

[dustyrose12]

Hi everyone, thank you for your help with my last post. I’ve been trying new techniques to become better but it’s hard to maintain a happy mindset when I’m surrounded by so much negativity. I think a big cause of all of this is being alone, without a partner. I am constantly being reminded that I am alone by my peers, my family and some of my closest friends. Everyone is always talking about their relationships and it makes me cry without their knowledge. I am scared of the future, I am scared I’m going to be alone for a long time. I know I am young but I want to have a long, happy life with a good person. I have been through so many challenges in my life including losing my father, step brother, and grandmother at a young age, moving halfway across the country also at a young age, and not being able to love someone and have them love me back. I want to find love and the right person but I’m terrified of opening my heart up again after my ex boyfriend completely shattered my heart. It’s putting me into a dark state of mind knowing that I won’t ever receive love. I don’t know exactly why I’m writing this post but I needed to rant. If any of you are feeling the same way, I am here for you. Thanks again

[Lixus]

I feel you, and I'm sry to hear what you've been trough, it had to be very difficult to deal with it... I've had moments where I was just getting loneliness thoughts, I cryed too a lot of times when I heard and see people happy with friends, partners, getting married... Not because I was jealous but because I was terrified by the idea of dying alone, with nobody by my side who loves me

This helps me now, I'm still having low moments but I learn to manage it sometimes:

Take moments to think about yourself, your weaknesses and your strength and accept them because guess what, we are not alone, we have ourselves by our side forever, I believe we are a miracle by itself

It takes time but I don't think it's a good idea to enter in a relationship without fully loving ourselves, and it will come, there is love for everyone of us, it just requires time

[Hidden in reply to Lixus]

I went through a phase myself when I was envious of those getting married and being envious is telling you you are interested in that thing and want the same otherwise it wouldn't have bothered you.

I have cried as well over those things so you're not the only one who feels like that.

[Survivor4Ever]

I’m going to tell you exactly what I told Dogmad600. It could be useful to you too....I’m feel for your losses and going through what you are. This is what I said.. Ask yourself 3 questions.

1. How do I feel?

2. What do I need?

3. What can I do about it?

If nothing than let it go. Distract yourself

This is for anxiety and depression. However, this may help with those negative those. Because we tend to catastrophe everything and assume the worst. Live in fear about the future. Watch out for toxic people. Hope any of this helps.