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Does anyone feel like people abandon them all the time?

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Yeah, I had neglect and verbal abuse nearly all my life - home situation not good

[Mia898 in reply to Hidden]

Sorry abuse from a young age or since you have got older?

[Hidden in reply to Mia898]

Young age

[Mia898 in reply to Hidden]

Does it get better when you brake away ? Only asking been through the same sort of things !

[Hidden in reply to Mia898]

Now everything has happened to me - there is nothing more to do - touch wood things don't change

[Mia898 in reply to Hidden]

That is so sad. Did you get any support to help ? Guessing in my case new life support you can change into a positive !

[Hidden in reply to Mia898]

No, support from Social Services which should have had and no other support from relatives or friends, who were busy making babies

[Mia898 in reply to Hidden]

Social services I should not pass a comment on my own story I will say a social worker should have come out but no one even supported . To this day do you still feel the pain? No therapist or anyone to help ? I have let go some but on a horrible day I can remember mine was verbal until 10 years ago . Verbal is horrible always being put down etc etc .

[Hidden in reply to Mia898]

It stops me from achieving but I do what I can - little comfort after all those years - mentally and physically scarred

[Mia898 in reply to Hidden]

You should not let it stop you ... It is amazing you do what you can . Can you get help to talk over and close for ever ?

[Hidden in reply to Mia898]

I will soldier on, worry about your situation - I hope you get some relief and are out of it

[Hidden in reply to Mia898]

Anyway, nice talking to you and sorry for your situation

[Mia898 in reply to Hidden]

Just remember there is help out there if you ever change your mind - please do share it does help . All the best

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I'm sorry you had to go through that. I've suffered from neglect too. It's like a double effect because for me personally I felt invisible to the ones neglecting me and burden to the new people

[Mia898]

Some times by friends but no there is always someone around.

Mhatso would tell you yes to your question .

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But how do people make sense of it? I find it hard because some people I'm not willing to let go. When I'm able to let them go, it's usually because I feel ashamed of trying to exist in a spot where people are not that attracted to my existence or the lack of it per say

[Lixus in reply to Hidden]

I have ocd, and it makes me think that my friends are getting tired of me, like they don't want me to stay with them anymore and they will abandon me.

Everytime I thought that, everytime I was wrong, just my anxiety talking... I find out that the best way to deal with it is talk, talk and talk, just go to your friends and talk about your worries and problems, they will support you and show you how much incorrect you are.

And if someone want to abandon you then you don't need them, I know it's hard to think about this, I struggle with it everytime I think about the possibility of being alone but with time you will know that you're better without that type of people around you, and there is safe, friendly, nice and keeper people out there... You are not alone.

Keep it safe ✨

[AngryPanda]

Yes. Abandoned or invalidated... #Hugs2U

[Hidden in reply to AngryPanda]

How do you deal with it? I feel like for me it's very hurtful and productivity paralyzing