Bill of Rights

[mgb2020]

At my recent psychology session I was given “the bill of rights”. Even though some of these things we see as common sense, sometimes in times of tension within a relationship we forget these basic rights and sometimes even sacrifice the notion of such.

For me, reading the list gave me a sense of security and also a reminder that I do not just deserve these things, I have the RIGHT to have them. Additionally, so does my partner. And when he is angry, he also deserves security even if his reaction may trigger a kind of fear/anxiety in me. Because his angry is not directed at me, it is directed at a defective/shame schema he is currently unaware of.

It does not mean I have to tolerate such behaviour, it means he has some inner work to do, and in a loving way, I need to help him get there. However definitely not to my own demise.

I suppose I foresee that if he can do the inner work, as am I for myself, we can better understand each other. And with understanding comes compassion, and with compassion comes partnership.

I am hopeful that the outcome is positive for both of us. Sometimes we just need a little reminder about the basics.

I hope this link helps someone out there. Please know that this applies to you too! ✨

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[Poodie]

Thank you. Great article. We need to spread the words.