Do you feel a sense of "not belonging"?

Like you don't belong or that you don't fit in?

I struggle with this feeling everyday. I feel somehow others know this and it makes me conscious. I've turned too meek. I need someone t9 help me get back my confidence.

[Lazy_dog_lover]

Absolutely. It is ironic, though, because my cousin and I just had a conversation saying that we both always felt like we were each the "black sheep of the family". We had to take personality tests at work a few times. I kept falling into the category that had the smallest percentage within the population. Although lonliness does set in some times, I have pretty much made peace with it. I am not goingto fit anyone's mould, so I just do my thing and try not to impede on theirs. Some people I have told about needs as a person. Some accept it and some don't. That's life. What do YOU want to be remembered for? You are not doing it for anyone else, just YOU. You are worth it. Set a goal and go for it. I believe in you.

[SoniaGorgeous]

Yeah, especially when i was a kid, we had to leave Russia where i was a confident and with larger than life personality and move to Libya( such a downgrade) i didn’t know Arabic at all, so first two years was hell, i was foreign to them “not one of them”, and somehow this sticked with me till today, this feeling of not fitting in, and the fear of not being accepted.

[Hidden in reply to SoniaGorgeous]

But my fear is not belonging anywhere. Strange part is, I never felt like this until recently. I was very confident and quite liked. My confidence has taken a hit and I'm going in a downward spiral. I'm feeling so small and ugly these days.

[Hidden]

I know what you mean. I feel that way at times. I'm doing "inner child healing" they have videos on YouTube explaining and therapies. Sending good energy.

[Poodie]

Hi Avi.

Yes I grew up feeling so different from everyone and that I didn’t belong anywhere. Later in life, I got on antidepressants which helped. Then I met more and more like minded people with whom I had a great deal in common. So I began to feel I belonged and could identify with these others. But it took me a while to figure out what I needed .

Can you try to think about what you need in a person to identify with them ? You do belong somewhere. Maybe you are changing and have other qualities you are looking for in people ?

You do belong here with people who try to help and understand . ❤️ and good wishes sent your way .