Questions

[DJB74]

Good morning all my friends here. Couple of questions for the group this morning.

To those of us, probably most of us, are overthinkers, when this happens what "things" do you consider?

Does anyone else here feel like they are a total alien and don't belong? Even without anxiety or depression being considered. Just based on their personal thoughts and beliefs?

[Hidden]

I think about things I can't control.

I don't belong, I have ADHD. I don't fit in. Even if I didn't have ADHD, my beliefs are weird to some people

[DJB74 in reply to Hidden]

Id love to dilisten to your beliefs sometimes if youd like. Maybe our differences are our strengths

[quitter333]

What things? Any things?

Mostly I get a ton of ideas (I am almost insanely creative with pretty good business and art ideas). I usually try to remember that FOCUS is very important, and try to focus my intellect. I don't overthink personal things as I've grown quite bored and apathetic to them. Focusing on stuff is somewhat very calming, as I can feel enormous energy being tamed like a wild horse.

[LadyZen]

I'm Asian-American and I grew up never feeling like I belonged.

I had a white male colleague ask me in a totally respectful way, how come Asians don't integrate into the American culture like European immigrants had in the past. For example, Europeans changed their names to more English names. I explained to him that my first name was very American. Also, Asian names like Kim, Park, Lee, are actually very westernized. Those names are not pronounced in their native language the way they are spelled in English, but are spellings of names and words that are already familiar in the English language. The things that I refuse to adopt, such as not wearing shoes in the house, are actually things my American friends have for obvious reasons also adopted and have now made it an American thing. He and I had a great dialogue that day.

In any case, the answer to your question is yes.

[Msheatherlady]

The "things" I consider are generally things I can't control, which lately is thoughts of when I'm going to die or when people around me will die.

At times I feel like I don't belong, but I work in the mental health field and I've come to find that my thoughts aren't my own and that many share my same fears.

[DJB74 in reply to Msheatherlady]

Yea my 56 yr old sister died on Christmas day this past year and it does renew things like my death death of my kids etc. But more than that it asks me what are you doing with life now? What do you need? Etc.

[Msheatherlady in reply to DJB74]

I'm so sorry to hear that! I understand those thoughts, and I feel like that's where my thoughts get out of control and I start to worry about things down the road rather than being in the moment.

[DJB74 in reply to Msheatherlady]

I try to do the same but what if those thoughts are trying to show me something for my present?

[Msheatherlady in reply to DJB74]

When I what if is when I tend to feel down and I try to avoid what ifs