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Is there something you want to do this week?

nc007
nc007

Can we motivate each other?

Meeting new people is hard for me. I set a schedule to get out of the house everyday and physically go to a new location with new people even if it’s just to journal or read.

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I would like to get out for a walk. The weather is supposed to be messy. I hope Mother Nature gives me an hour of opportunity.

Have a good week

nc007
nc007
in reply to Dolphin14

I hope the weather cooperates too! Have a good week 😊

nc007
nc007
in reply to Dolphin14

How was the walk?

Dolphin14
Dolphin14
in reply to nc007

Sadly it rained :( so I did yoga. I exercise almost everyday. But getting a walk in this time of year is tough.

How was your day and goal?

nc007
nc007
in reply to Dolphin14

Yoga is tough exercise!! Good job 👏...I went to a new gym and worked out with a friend. Day one was a success 😊

Dolphin14
Dolphin14
in reply to nc007

Excellent! Keep up the good work. Exercise is so good for us:)

nc007
nc007
in reply to Dolphin14

Did you get to walk today??

Dolphin14
Dolphin14
in reply to nc007

Yes 3 miles, it was great.

How are you doing?

nc007
nc007
in reply to Dolphin14

Got swept up in work deadlines, so no social stuff today really but tomorrow I have a Meetup with a new group. Nervous but excited about that

Dolphin14
Dolphin14
in reply to nc007

I hope your meet up goes well.

nc007
nc007
in reply to Dolphin14

I hope so too. I really do want to meet some new people outside of my usual circle

nc007
nc007
in reply to Dolphin14

Good job 3 miles is a lot!!!

Dolphin14
Dolphin14
in reply to nc007

I love to walk. I could just keep on going if I didn't have life responsibilities lol

nc007
nc007
in reply to Dolphin14

Well you sound like your moving right along with your goal. 😊

Exercise daily, It helps me but is difficult to stick with when busy.

nc007
nc007
in reply to 9Aurelius

I hope you can this week

nc007
nc007
in reply to 9Aurelius

Did you get to exercise?

9Aurelius
9Aurelius
in reply to nc007

Yes, I did! It was short but that’s ok

nc007
nc007
in reply to 9Aurelius

You did it!! Congrats!!

9Aurelius
9Aurelius
in reply to nc007

Thank you! This was a good idea!

nc007
nc007
in reply to 9Aurelius

Did you get to exercise?

9Aurelius
9Aurelius
in reply to nc007

Yes, I did! Something funny just happened to me. So I had to go out and get my kids at 2 different places. Well, we are in the middle of a snowstorm. So on my way to get them, I have to go down through a valley. I went down in and spent the last hour and a half trying to get out. Attempting to get uphill after hill lol. I think I fried my tires and finally, I did get out.

nc007
nc007
in reply to 9Aurelius

Wow that sounds freezing! Good for you for going! I have only seen snow 5 times in my life that I can remember and I’m 42 lol. California girl ☺️

9Aurelius
9Aurelius
in reply to nc007

I'm seen more than I want to but normally it's not bad like that here. I've never been to Cal before. I'm in Ohio

nc007
nc007
in reply to 9Aurelius

I’ve never been to Ohio. What’s it like?

9Aurelius
9Aurelius
in reply to nc007

It's nice we have good summer fall and spring weather. Where I live is great for those that like to hike or walk in the park. There is lots of trees 🦌and corn. It's about 30 degrees what about California? What's it like there?

nc007
nc007
in reply to 9Aurelius

No seasons really. I want to see that one day and travel more in the US. It’s usually 70 degrees or more here

9Aurelius
9Aurelius
in reply to nc007

We have 4 seasons that's for sure. That sounds nice 70 as I here the snowplow go down the road lol. Sometimes I like the snow and slead riding is fun. I'm 41 but I will still go with my kids sometimes. The worst part is walking back up the hill.

nc007
nc007
in reply to 9Aurelius

Still sounds fun to me 😁

9Aurelius
9Aurelius
in reply to nc007

Gremlins is available on Amazon I looked 3.99 lol

nc007
nc007
in reply to 9Aurelius

Lol I would love to see that again! That was one of my favorite movies!!

9Aurelius
9Aurelius
in reply to nc007

Ok, how's Friday at 7 p.m. Sound!? Haha jp

nc007
nc007
in reply to 9Aurelius

That’s the most fun Valentine’s Day offer I’ve had yet 😊

9Aurelius
9Aurelius
in reply to nc007

😁 yes!

9Aurelius
9Aurelius
in reply to nc007

Happy Valentine’s !! I Hope your day brings you great joy !

nc007
nc007
in reply to 9Aurelius

Happy Valentine’s Day!! I just mentioned Gremlins in my Valentine post..Going to a meetup tonight. Went to another one last night. How’s work been?

9Aurelius
9Aurelius
in reply to nc007

Work is busy. left early today going to take my son out in a bit for his birthday. It’s on the 15th but he has other plans With his girl.

nc007
nc007
in reply to 9Aurelius

Weekend!! Yay!!

I want to be able to make it to work all week. May sound like a silly goal, but it’s been really tough for me not only to show up for work, but to remain at work. Baby steps! 🐢

It’s not silly. That’s a huge accomplishment. Slow and steady wins the race 🐢💛

Did you stay at work today?

I did! Did you get out today?

I’m gonna be working a lot but I did the gym. I do have lunch with a friend though. So that counts

Yes, it absolutely counts!

Thanks I met this friend through work but we have been friends for 15 years, so yeah it counts 😊...how’s work today?

Work was okay today. Found myself uninterested and bored, even though I had work to do. Tried to tell myself that what I was feeling was okay (versus my ‘shaming’ myself for feeling bored). It’s been hard to focus lately w my depression.

I’m impressed you made it to the gym! 💪🏼 Exercise is really hard for me.

How was work today? I didn’t get to do much social other than I went to the hair salon and laughed with my stylist

Finish a letter to a friend. Failing that, a poem.

nc007
nc007
in reply to mrmonk

Is it something you are struggling to start or finish?

mrmonk
mrmonk
in reply to nc007

Finish.

nc007
nc007
in reply to mrmonk

Sending you creative energy 🤓

mrmonk
mrmonk
in reply to nc007

Thank you 😺

nc007
nc007
in reply to mrmonk

How’s the letter going?

mrmonk
mrmonk
in reply to nc007

Sadly, not much progress. I can't organize my thoughts...well, that's not true...it's more like I keep organizing and reorganizing them, so they're always shifting, or I get overwhelmed be the sheer volume of them. Then, there are the words...choosing this word over that word...revising and revising endlessly. I have OCD and one of the ways it manifests is that it makes writing prose -- sometimes even short messages like this -- take much, much longer than it should (direct messaging is never direct with me).

I tried thinking outside the box, and attempted to record an audio letter, thinking maybe it would come more easily if I spoke it. But my mind wasn't having it. I may give it another go tomorrow.

On the upside, my unquiet mind serves me well writing poems. So, there's that to look forward to 😺

Did you have a productive day?

Hidden
Hidden

I like to win the lottery this week

nc007
nc007
in reply to Hidden

What would you do with the money??

Hidden
Hidden
in reply to nc007

I would donated all to charity.. .ugh noooo

I'm going on a cruise ship and getting lost for the next couple months...

But I would still donate money to cancer and to the children's hospital. And give the church some money

nc007
nc007
in reply to Hidden

Any lottery tickets yet??

Hidden
Hidden
in reply to nc007

Wow your faster then my sisters when it comes to asking 🤣🤣 I'm just kidding🤣.

Yes actually won a couple hundred million and I'm currently on my way to paris on my new 2020 Boeing triple 7....lol 🤣.

Nah but truth is I just got off work and I'm now headed home to my two bedroom town apartment that I'm currently late on paying .

So that kind of sums it up🤣🤣

nc007
nc007
in reply to Hidden

I love your imagination 😜💛

Hidden
Hidden
in reply to nc007

Lol have a wonderful day or evening. 🥂

It could happen! There was a custodian at the university here that won 40 million from one ticket 4 years ago!!

Xyra
Xyra
in reply to nc007

Nc007 where are you from?? North Carolina? I’m in Texas and I have trouble getting out... good idea about using goals! I might just make mine to go out and get a lotto ticket! Lol

nc007
nc007
in reply to Xyra

I’m in California 😎...just got back from my first social outing for the week. One day down 😊

nc007
nc007
in reply to Xyra

What’s your goal this week?

Xyra
Xyra
in reply to nc007

Girl I got goals for every day! Whether I do it or not is yet to be seen lol.

I just got my dog back from my “doggysitter” aka my bestie and she has fleas!! Goal is to get her all clean and flea free!

How is Cali?? I’ve never been to the west coast. 😬

nc007
nc007
in reply to Xyra

I’m sure your dog will appreciate that goal too 😉...I grew up in California my whole life, so I take it for granted. I love it here. California girl through and through. Where would you visit if you came here? I’ve never been to the east coast 😊

Xyra
Xyra
in reply to nc007

Omg!! Mendocino vineyards all the way!! Those redwoods, too!! Ahhh I like the east coast. The Smokey mountains can really take your breath away!

My doggy definitely appreciated the bath!! She’s a tiny Pomeranian so she loves the warm water :)

I’m in south Texas right next to the gulf. The water isn’t the clearest but it can be sooo warm! What’s it like there??

nc007
nc007
in reply to Xyra

Good job on the bath! It’s 70 degrees here today. Chilly day for is 🥶

Xyra
Xyra
in reply to nc007

We are getting there soon! A front seems to be rolling in with some rain... eek!

nc007
nc007
in reply to Xyra

Yikes! Good job on the goal today!!

Xyra
Xyra
in reply to nc007

;)

nc007
nc007
in reply to Xyra

Did it rain? What was your goal today? 😁

Hidden
Hidden

I love that idea. I like staying at the park sometimes too if I have free time or staying at a coffee shop. I like to write about anything in my mind. Journaling had been one of my best friends that helped me to cope with my emotions.

nc007
nc007
in reply to Hidden

I try to be in new locations to be exposed to new people. Found this cool coworking office when I go to write. Working on my first book...learning as I go 🤓

CanuckAnon
CanuckAnon
in reply to nc007

I would like to accomplish at least 50% of my list/plan for week...😊 I wish spring would hurry up. I am quite sick of winter and snow.... lol wish it would make a difference to the weather if I plowed my front lawn.

Great post btw!

nc007
nc007
in reply to CanuckAnon

Thanks! I’ll check on back on your progress on the list. Good luck!!

nc007
nc007
in reply to CanuckAnon

How the progress on that list going?

Hidden
Hidden
in reply to nc007

That's great. Are you planning on having it published?

nc007
nc007
in reply to Hidden

I really want to. Basically it will be a book about how September 11th changed my life as a former military spouse. I want to try and publish before next year because that is the 20 year anniversary. I know there are millions of people that suffered tremendously and I want to honor them and share what it has been like to suffer from anxiety and depression.

Hidden
Hidden
in reply to nc007

That is so good of you. You will inspire a lot with your book. Good luck to you. :)

nc007
nc007
in reply to Hidden

Thanks, I really hope to. I’ve never written a book before but that is why I’ve signed up for different writing groups and conferences. It gets me out of the house too so I can meet new people. Your encouragement and letting me share here really helps 😊💛

LilyAnnepuppy
LilyAnnepuppy
in reply to nc007

Where were you living on 9/11?

nc007
nc007
in reply to LilyAnnepuppy

Ironically I live in California, nowhere near New York. I met my ex husband at age 22 in July of that year in San Diego and he was one of the first to deploy in October that year and we were married. It was the scariest and most confusing time of my life. We did 4 war deployments and he was critically injured and became 100% disabled. I’m not special. I’m just one American story. I want to reach out to all who sacrificed and suffered.

LilyAnnepuppy
LilyAnnepuppy
in reply to nc007

Wonderful idea. You'll certainly not be at a loss for material.

nc007
nc007
in reply to LilyAnnepuppy

Thanks for the reassurance💛...I can only imagine if I get published, how many people are like me. Their lives forever changed. This was not the plan to be divorced and childless with crippling anxiety and depression at age 42 but I want to find the courage to share my story to make sense of all that time I used to feel was wasted. All that regret and sadness I hope to channel into writing so I can finally close that chapter and start a new one.

LilyAnnepuppy
LilyAnnepuppy
in reply to nc007

I believe that any writing is worthwhile. Go for it.

nc007
nc007
in reply to LilyAnnepuppy

Thanks LilyAnnepuppy....I really needed encouragement tonight. It means a lot to me to be able to openly share what I have hidden for so long. I hope I can be as supportive to you 💛

LilyAnnepuppy
LilyAnnepuppy
in reply to nc007

PM me anytime

nc007
nc007
in reply to LilyAnnepuppy

Please know you can always do the same. I’m here🤗💛

nc007
nc007
in reply to LilyAnnepuppy

Side note, looking back and I did not see your post about something you want to do this week. Did I miss it?

LilyAnnepuppy
LilyAnnepuppy
in reply to nc007

Breathing is always a good benchmark for me. Next is getting out of bed. Household chores come in their somewhere. Painting. Exercising. Spending time with my husband and birds. Talking to friends on the phone.

I know these things sound simple, but I'm about 7 month post breakdown and am happy to get out of bed. There was a year and a half there where I couldn't even use that as a success gauge.

So other than putting one foot in front of the other, I'm content to just plug merrily along. 😎

nc007
nc007
in reply to LilyAnnepuppy

Those moments are huge. Day by day, choice by choice is how change happens. I think that’s the perfect success gauge 👏

LilyAnnepuppy, you mentioned that you have birds in your post.....I absolutely adore birds and am thinking about getting one. What kind of birds do you have? 🦜

I'll pm you

Ok, great! 😀

I love that you made friends with each other to message about your love of birds 💛

nc007
nc007
in reply to LilyAnnepuppy

How is the success gauge this week?

Gia7
Gia7
in reply to nc007

There's a lot of people with crippling anxiety..thank you for your beautiful post..I wrote another further down..yes write that book. You've got a story..I believe we all have a story..I have no kids..not able but 2 furry children whom I'm blessed with.. unfortunately my husband and I are having troubles..he's a downer and a Narcissist...I am home on disability due to autoimmune issues and was an At-Risk Children's Therapist in the past. I miss it..I do Everything for my husband.. everything..he comes home to a clean apartment which he complains that I'm too "obcessed with cleaning"..which I'm not, he just came from the opposite and isn't used to it. He's a truck driver and works 14 hours/day comes home to clean sheets .. towels in the bathroom clean pajamas ready ..omg am I crazy???? He doesn't appreciate it..he showers gets on his computer and plays games. He goes to bed at 8 because he needs to be up at 3.

Any thoughts on this spoiled man????

nc007
nc007
in reply to Gia7

I’m not a good judge. However I was married for 10 years to a military husband that was 100% disabled after serving in Iraq. My marriage ended but I can see now how badly I neglected myself in all of that. Everything was about him and his happiness. It has taken me 10 years to bounce back and I’m still working on it. My only suggestion is try not to lose your happiness in your relationship. You are the only one can make you happy. I wish I had thought more about that then but I didn’t know what I didn’t know. Hope that helps 🤗💛

Gia7
Gia7
in reply to nc007

I'm so sorry for your struggles 🙏 and they do seem to bring us to new happier places though, it seems..have you read the book Bounce Back? ...a very good book to read...I recommend to everyone. I checked it out of the library and decided I had to have my own copy. Small easy read to keep in your car or night stand. (It's great having a library as your neighbor)...so many authors I love...

My blessings to you 🤗 Hugs!!

nc007
nc007
in reply to Gia7

I’ve never read that but it sounds interesting. Thanks for the suggestion 😁

nc007
nc007
in reply to Gia7

How is your week going?

nc007
nc007
in reply to Hidden

How is your week going?

MidnightBriarRose
MidnightBriarRose
in reply to Hidden

I keep an online Diary and write in it whenever I need to.....and it helps me so much, too!

That’s funny, I kind of do the same. I text myself. Used to be motivational stuff, then gratitude and now it’s just ideas. It’s helped me keep track of my thoughts and measure progress

I know what you mean, as I have actually texted myself before, too. And one time I actually had a back and forth conversation with myself, trying to work through an issue I was dealing with. And it actually ended up being very therapeutic for me! Funny how that works! 😁

I’ve done the same exact thing!! Something about reading the words visually that helps me be more objective

nc007
nc007
in reply to Hidden

Done any writing this week?

This is an excellent idea! And kudos to you for doing this for yourself! This is exactly what I need to start doing for myself, but right now I am mostly afraid to be around people, because all of the things that are going around right now....ie the flu, colds, etc. And because I haven’t been taking care of myself, I worry that my immune system may not be as strong as it needs to be to fight things off. But maybe I can start small, by just taking a drive in my car and going to places where there is only a small amount of people around. That way I’m not in a large group of people, but am at least getting out of the house. I’m taking vitamins and other supplements to strengthen my immune system and planning to start juicing again. Your post has really helped me by giving me new ideas. Thank you so much for posting! 🌸💗🌸

Those are great ideas. Starting “small” can have a snowball effect! 👏

Thank you! 💛

You got this!! 💛

Have you tried to take that drive yet??

Not yet, but I’m planning to take a drive tomorrow! 😀

A random windy drive with no particular place to go is one of my favorite things 😁

Oh, My! I love doing that, too! I love the wind and have always loved taking random drives to random places.....completely spur of the moment and carefree! You have inspired me, nc007! Thank you! ❤️❤️❤️

I love this thread so much. You all have inspired me during this week of intense work deadlines. It’s been a bright spot. Thank you 💛

I am so happy to hear that! 💚 And I hope the rest of your week is even better!!! 🌻🌞🌼

You too!😊💛🤓

Hi nc007

What an inspiration you are and you've got me thinking about that...it's so hard with anxiety and depression. I'm back in therapy for about a month now and back to meditating which has always helped. 🧘🌻. I am working on not being so overwhelmed. I can only handle 1 appt/promise per day and always keep 2 days for myself or more if I can so I can try and get out. Winter's end is only a short distance away and cannot wait to get to some of my favorite state spots near the water. B

Hopefully I'll have come along in therapy to be able to.

Thank you so much🤗💪🌻🧘🌈🌹for your beautiful inspiration post. I needed that and I'm sure a lot of us did.

My blessings to you 🙏

Gia7

One promise a day to yourself is how change starts. I’m so glad this helped. I’m gonna check in with you. We’re In this together 💛

something I want to do this week maybe run to the hills and scream.

nc007
nc007
in reply to kenster1

Do it like a wolf howling at the moon!!

kenster1
kenster1
in reply to nc007

yeah but anyone heard me they would run I might even get shot by a silver bullet.

nc007
nc007
in reply to kenster1

Yeah doesn’t sound as poetic when you mention that 😜

nc007
nc007
in reply to kenster1

Been to the hills yet kenster1?

kenster1
kenster1
in reply to nc007

afraid not and the weather isn't looking good for a few days.

Hidden
Hidden

I have to clean, I should be more motivated and I am not getting as much done as I should. I fired my cleaning lady. My house is large. I am pretty backed up and need to get my but in gear. In house all day. Today is my day to make some real progress. But I am so tired from night after night of night terrors and anxiety. If I can clean sick in past, I can clean tired 😓... I hope I make it... crap... I am one verbose p.o.s.

nc007
nc007
in reply to Hidden

I feel your pain in the lack of motivation. My house always suffers. I procrastinate. Today I’m struggling with a work deadline but I’d rather message here😁....sending good vibes

Hidden
Hidden
in reply to nc007

Get to work! Hahahahaha see you later... I will work tooo

nc007
nc007
in reply to Hidden

You’re right LexMag😊...let’s work

nc007
nc007
in reply to nc007

How are you doing LexMag? How’s work?

Have you heard of FlyLady? She helped me w my perspective on housework. First, I learned that it doesn’t have to be perfect. I’m not prepping for a Southern Living photo shoot 😜 Second...I take baby steps and set a 15 min timer (work/rest). Sometimes I just can’t do that and the stuff piles up....and that’s OK too, I just jump back in wherever.

Having a tough time making it through work today. Thankful for this app & thread. I think there is a way to bookmark this somehow.... 🤔

I’m so glad it’s helping. Just took a break from work to see this. I’ll have to check out FlyLady. How is work?

Well. It’s complicated. And you can get overwhelmed quickly. So, I would say, check her out. Go in w open mind to take what you like and leave the rest. I found her very inspiring. She is a recovering hoarder & recovering perfectionist.

nc007
nc007
in reply to Hidden

How’s that cleaning?

Well I'm supposed to study but I didn't all week and now everything is piling up already. Great start to the new semester.

nc007
nc007
in reply to Square251

I always ask myself, why did I do this again? I knew better but then I have to exercise self compassion and remind myself disorganization is a symptom of my depression and I’m doing the best I can. Logically sounds good but emotionally it’s tough

Square251
Square251
in reply to nc007

Yeah but I already failed last year and at this rate I'll fail again.

nc007
nc007
in reply to Square251

How did the studying go?

Square251
Square251
in reply to nc007

Sadly I didn't study, just ended up oversleeping instead.

I want to apply to at least 1 job by Monday. It probably seems really tiny but after recently quitting my job I've been overwhelmed easily. If I can do one application I think I'll be off to a good start. Failing that, I'd like to up my exercise like a lot of the other people here

nc007
nc007
in reply to backtohappy

I know applying for jobs can be so labor intensive. One application sounds like a great goal! Exercise too..I’ll check back with you 😁

backtohappy
backtohappy
in reply to nc007

Thanks! Hope your goal goes well too :)

nc007
nc007
in reply to backtohappy

💛

My thoughts get jumbled until I write most of the time. I didn’t get to do social stuff today. My work took over because of procrastination but tomorrow I have a meetup to go to. All new people 😳

I think that's a great idea. What I want to do this week is look presentable. When I don't go out of the house due to weather or for other reasons I have a habit of looking awful. Not styling my hair, not following my skin care routine and brushing my teeth in a hurry. This week I will do my best to style my hair and keep up my skin care routine. Even when the snow or cold keeps me in those things help me feel better. Thanks for sharing.

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