I see a pattern

[Booklover0219]

I came across several pictures from the last six years and I noticed a trend. I base my happiness on external factors. I base it on whether I believe other people value me. I have a pattern of highs and lows based on what’s going on around me. When my social life is active I am much happier. When life is quiet and I’m alone my depression sets in. This is codependency I think. It is affecting every part of my life.

[Mumma_h]

It is good to be enjoy the things you do .....being social...... It's important to do things that make you happy!!! But we don't have to place all our happiness on other people around us ,at some point they'll fall short,we're all human ,and you don't need to buy into the fact the fact that when they do that it has the affect you deeply or put you back into depression. It's ok to enjoy your own company too when the social calendar isn't full ,you can do some really cool stuff,do you have any hobbies, anything you have a passion for,I love getting into the veggie garden and replanting.....or doing crafty stuff . You are VALUED,you have friends who enjoy your company.....and we're all needed too in some way.🤗

[Sprinkle1]

I agree with Mumma - we need hobby's and things we love to do, today I bought some herb seeds and pansies, I will have fun planting them, I love fresh herbs in my cooking, I also like to cook. I love a good book, and am a member of a book club, which is fun. I do volunteer work at our local library and love it. I get DVD's out, they cost nothing, I hate all the commercials on TV.

In therapy many years ago I learnt to be inner directed not outer directed, so my life does not revolve around other people, don't get me wrong I have friends, but they cannot wound me with careless words or actions. I like myself and value my own time, try it it can be very rewarding.

Wishing you well, sending you Love & Hugs.....Sprinkle 1......