How are you?

[Balloon5]

How’s everyone doing? I hope you’re doing ok and trying to handle the things you are going through the best way you can!

If you need a friend of any sort message me & I’ll try my best to help get your mind of the problem/ or anything you are going through or feeling (: 💚

[Hidden]

Hello there... I'm new here.

[Balloon5 in reply to Hidden]

Hello! How’s your day going?

[Hidden in reply to Balloon5]

I'm good. I'm browsing through here trying to learn how this forum works.

[PastelPink20 in reply to Hidden]

Welcome aboard!! I hope you figure out a way it can work well for you! 😊

[Balloon5 in reply to Hidden]

Welcome! I hope this app is just as helpful as it is for us 💜

[Caseopia in reply to Hidden]

Me too. I’m new here and trying to figure out how this works as well.

[PastelPink20]

Hi! Thanks for giving me an excuse to vent somewhere.

I’m doing okay. :/

To be honest, I’ve been dealing with feeling this explosive anger. I think it’s because I’ve been feeling more and more self hatred.. and I’m also idk more irritable because of it? Because of that lack of kindness? Because of that lack of “it’s okay to mess up” I just become very unforgiving and frustrated? More things feel scare. >.<

Anyways, I have this family member. They have a way of yelling at children whenever kids are being kids (I mean sometimes kids are brats and need behavior correction... ). And since I’m family, I’ll be around. And. The yelling triggers something in me.

I wish I could say that I could handle it and remain calm. I just, I can’t. I can’t watch it, I can’t hear it, I can’t. Why would someone blame children, make them feel like they’re stupid and worthless, because of their behavior? Why yell at them? It’s not a conversation... it’s not identifying the behavior or beliefs underlying the concerning behavior, talking it through, and having a different course of action or even punishment. Why threaten them and point out what they lack without giving them the tools to learn?

I don’t know what I should do to be able to handle it better. It like hurts me to see. But, I didn’t act appropriately at the family gathering... or you know, they feel bad and make me feel bad for how I acted and they win I guess.

I don’t know if that makes any sense at all. But how are you doing?

[Balloon5 in reply to PastelPink20]

That makes complete sense, I have definitely dealt with the same kind of thing. It’s hard to approach them in a calm manner when they’re all worked up as it is and if you do say something they somehow turn it around and don’t like you telling them how to “parent” or whatever they consider it. Sometimes people are going through their own personal issues and can’t seem to realize it and explode you know? Maybe try and bring it to their attention alone and it’s a very intimidating topic because you just don’t know how they will react but it’s better to approach it calm than with anger. I hope you find a solution and help this person recognize.

I’m ok, thank you for asking

[Wolf2]

Hi,

Hope you are doing ok?

Keep your chin up one day at a timex

[Caseopia]

Hello there. Hope all is well. Thank you for the thoughtful post. Today isn’t as difficult as my days tend to be but I’m trying to keep positive. It’s difficult for me to do that. So glad I found this site.

[Balloon5 in reply to Caseopia]

It is VERY difficult, it feels like it is a never ending feeling. But hopefully this support group helps you just as much as it has helped the majority of us. Hang in there & have a great day 💚

[Caseopia in reply to Balloon5]

Thank you. You too.