I can’t be the only one

[Kc29]

Have any beside me think there spouse/ partner cause the anxiety in there life ?

[Hidden]

Why do you say that?

[Kc29 in reply to Hidden]

I’m saying is two different ppl gets on each other nerves. I guess to commit is hard

[Michdau1]

To be fair, my husband definitely isn't the initial cause of mine. However, being in a long term relationship is never easy and takes hard work/compromise/patience etc. Add mental health issues into the mix and it gets even harder! I find it hard to maintain relationships as I too suffer with anxiety along with ocd and PTSD. I also have moderate depression. What I find is that I feel guilty for being in a relationship and feel that I hold my husband back/burden him/he could do better. That guilt then turns into sadness or anger which I direct internally. It damages my self esteem and perpetuates the anxiety I think. Just ask yourself, is my relationship adding any value to my life? Is it serving me well? Nothing can be perfect all the time, imperfections make things beautiful and interesting. However, if you aren't benefiting from your situation, only you can change it XXX you have the right to do so. The power to do so. You have the strength to do so 🤗 think of this as an opportunity to make your life better. I think it's a positive thing that u have identified the stressors in your life as that's the 1st step to making the changes XXX best of luck xxx

[Kc29 in reply to Michdau1]

Lol I agree.

[Hidden]

Yes! I feel like my SO causes so much anxiety in my life. He don't see it, he don't understand it. But man he really does.

[Kc29 in reply to Hidden]

That’s a Conversation needs to happen

[kenster1]

hi my partner plays a part in it sorry that it affects you as well.

[Kc29 in reply to kenster1]

It’s like no need to add stress, let’s find a solution instead of fussing

[Fearoffear]

I leave my house I feel wonderful, as soon as I'm heading home here comes the panic. Can you believe I was agoraphobic for 4 years? I can't just blame my SO solely but he is if 50% it. I am trying to change that as I'm trying to lessen the obsticles so I don't have to rely on him as much. Find the problem, fix the problem or leave the problem.

[Hidden in reply to Fearoffear]

I know that feeling, sometimes when I head home from class I would just rather go ANYWHERE else. Not because of my kids but because of my SO. He’s not 100% to blame for my anxiety and depression but damn, he sure as hell don’t help it. I’ve been trying to change and I’m doing so much better with my temper but he’s not even trying!

[Kc29 in reply to Hidden]

i have joined a gym and that helps with the stress and ppl I meet at the gym helps out as well

[Hidden in reply to Kc29]

I miss going to the gym. It really did help. Just hard to find the time now. With school and kids but I’m thinking once we move and get settled I’m going to join again. It feels good to take my frustrations out by working out.

[Kc29 in reply to Hidden]

Agree