Too Good to be True

[Downandout123]

So everyone knows the saying-"If it's too good to be true, it usually is". Well, I have come to believe that quote with certain people that have entered my life and then wound up disappointing me in a big way. So my question is-do you tend to believe that quote, or have you generally had good things happen with people and things that seem too good to be true?

[hypercat54]

Well I am not sure what you mean by disappointing you? Do you think maybe your expectations are high? x

[DrChereyle in reply to hypercat54]

I would ask the same question. Sometimes we set ourselves up for failure by expecting too much from others.

[Downandout123 in reply to DrChereyle]

No-that isn't the case.

[Downandout123 in reply to hypercat54]

In a word, -NO. lol

[DrChereyle in reply to Downandout123]

I felt that “NO”!!!😂 Some things can be too good to be true, but when dealing with people on a personal level. We have to make sure we’re communicating our expectations & not assuming that people know what we expect. Not saying that you haven’t done this, but I would challenge you to do a self assessment and ask yourself WHY do you feel disappointed? HOW are they able to disappoint you? Write your expectations of them down & see if they are reasonable. Did they really disappoint you or is that the anxiety and/or depression talking? Sometimes when we’re down, it’s difficult to see any positive in a situation. It’s just a thought....

[Downandout123 in reply to DrChereyle]

Excellent answer!! Thank you! 😊

[jkl5500]

I think you are referring to the euphoria you experience when you meet someone attractive, and then that person turns out to be not so great. We are all emotional creatures first, and we often let our emotions run away with us. Then you feel like you're on a roller coaster with your moods!

It's been said that nothing is as good as it seems, and nothing is as bad as it seems. Staying on an even keel emotionally is (in my opinion) important to long-term happiness.

[Downandout123 in reply to jkl5500]

It's not even just with people though. It's basically in life itself. Different situations. I know I'm not being clear. Hard to explain.

[Hidden]

I think I believe that quote but you'd have to explain a little bit more on what you mean

[Downandout123]

Eh-it's not important. Just wanted other people's opinions, based on what has happened in their lives, and if they experienced any " too good to be true" experiences.

[Hidden]

It really depends on the individual in question.

When I was younger I used to make friends quicker (thank you alcohol!) But they weren't the caliber of friends that I have now. I basically have 2 real close friends that I would bet my life on.

I know some really nice people but only those two are my bread and butter.

Sorry, that's not really an answer to your question, is it?

[Downandout123 in reply to Hidden]

No, but thank you for replying and sharing your story 😊