It is what it is

[Darknlovely504]

Some things in life we can't change I just was being honest about False hope.

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But there are things we can change. One is our attitude and perception of things. Try saying the serenity prayer.

"God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference."

It helps me. We are strong and can change alot of our circumstances in life. I agree some things we can't control but if you do what we can to be the best you can be, you have done your job.

[Darknlovely504 in reply to Hidden]

Sometimes your best isn't good enough then I have three kids who depend on me so I can't just do things in a way as if it was just me.

[Hidden in reply to Darknlovely504]

I understand. We live with my husband's mom now and have been for two years. It's not good enough but I can still work hard, support her and be the best mom I can be. I will get this straightened out but I will not let it kill me, who I am and how I take care of her. I make the best of it.

I'm sorry you are hurting. I'm not trying to minimize it. You are stronger than you think.

[Darknlovely504 in reply to Hidden]

Kids look at parents to fix everything and to be strong etc. When u got to explain to some kids that u aren't well they get mad or just don't care. I'm just on my own that's why I want to get well cause I know I'll end up homeless or dead soon

[Darknlovely504 in reply to Darknlovely504]

After we raise kids some forget about us

[Hidden in reply to Darknlovely504]

Can you get some help if it is financial from government entities or medical from community programs?

[Darknlovely504 in reply to Hidden]

I have medical insurance I just don't want to rely or live on psyc meds. I have worked but my anxiety so bad and working stressful jobs agitated me more. A lot of things make me panic etc noise, health, long hours traveling etc I'm just all messed up

[Hidden in reply to Darknlovely504]

I can relate. I was on meds for seven years but finally got off. They made no difference at all. If you can get a job you like maybe you won't be so anxious.

[1OshunDreamer]

Melhall is right, about change. Frankly, everything can be changed, the change just isn't always in your control. That's where my anxiety kicks in. I'm not a religious person by any means but I do have a copy of the Serenity Prayer pinned to my board on my closet door. If I'm stressed while getting dressed for the day or changing at the end of the day I can see it. I focus on "...accept things I cannot change...change the things I can."

[Darknlovely504 in reply to 1OshunDreamer]

I'm not going to lie and say I pray because i Don't. I don't feel like it helps me I guess my faith is gone I've been suffering and stressing a long time now. Life just so trying I can't deal with all the turmoil my kids need me at 100% not 40 and I feel God knows that but yet and still I'm a mess

[1OshunDreamer in reply to Darknlovely504]

Agreed. I've become an Agnostic because I've always felt there was no Godly reason for me to be attacked by a wild dog and go through rabies shots at 12 years old, sexually assaulted in high school, have a dysfunctional family, dad who is an alcoholic, years of unsuccessful infertility treatments and a 30 year marriage end in a divorce. So I get your feelings 110%

However, I have found a way through almost because of that Serenity Prayer. I learned it in AA with my dad 40 years ago but never put it to use until last year. I make 5 minutes to journal my feelings/day now when I'm in a bad place. I got the right meds for my anxiety to lower enough to deal with the depression. You CAN change what you need to with a little help.

[Darknlovely504 in reply to 1OshunDreamer]

My mental state been off your childhood or genetics could play a part in that. I think for me it was my childhood then the name calling and the way some ppl judge me plus assaults that really messed me up mentally now my healrh. So I get U totally

[1OshunDreamer in reply to Darknlovely504]

Same here, I get you. Keep talking on this site and you'll find more like us. Talking to people who get it has helped me soooo much.