i wanna get better at feelings

[childofomelas]

i am trying to put more effort into building my romantic relationship as well as my friendships. i’ve been irritated with my SO and i avoided them and the root of the issue rather than talk about it. i finally brought it up to them after a lot of prodding from my friends and we talked and i’ve been working through what’s bothering me. i feel bad bc i know they want something serious that goes past graduation and while i do like them i’m not sure i want to pursue something so tangible. it’s scary and i am not sure how to feel. having someone’s heart is terrifying because i don’t want to break it, but at the same time i am unreliable and skittish. i hope the friends i have now will remain my friends next year and the years after that..

[1OshunDreamer]

You have a lot going on there. Let me address friendships first. This sounds so cheesy but it's true. If your friends love and care for you, they'll always be there willing to help. If they don't, they're not your friends. I've had friends over the years, show themselves and I dropped them fast. When I looked back, I often realized I was their friend but they weren't mine, if that makes sense.

As for romantic relationships, you take things a slow as you want, your partner will understand if they care for you. I dated a my husband for 3 years before we got married. We were married for 30 years and our divorce was final December 6, 2018. I'm heart broken and so is he. Somewhere we fell "out" of love and switched to best friends, that's not romantic partners. Had I been afraid way back then that I'd break his heart, I would have missed out on 33 great years. without the relationship I wouldn't be who I am today. The great times with family and romantic relationships far out weigh your fear.

[childofomelas in reply to 1OshunDreamer]

thank you for taking the time to reply, i will consider what you said and try to apply it. thank you for sharing your story. i hope all is well between you two

[leanneski]

I agree with the reply below you have to put in the effort even if it’s scary because the benefits of doing it are far greater than the results if you don’t. X