Brief rant

[Skydreamer42]

Let's write a story. Everyone gets to be happy except me. I care that I have a voice that isn't heard. I care that my choices are invalidated by the people around me. No one cares, and that makes them happy.

[Skydreamer42]

In summary, do you ever feel like you have no voice among the people around you?

[JAYnLA in reply to Skydreamer42]

Hey Sky - people don't always listen to me but I usually feel heard. Some people just don't like what I have to say.

[Kat63 in reply to Skydreamer42]

I have felt that way at certain times in my life, yes.

[-Sasha- in reply to Skydreamer42]

Yes, most of the time I feel like nobody cares what I have to say. I used to love long conversations.... Movies, sports, current events, etc. it didn't matter as long as it was interesting to me. I don't have many friends and I would try talking to my family and bf. I guess i just got tired of being ignored, having people fall asleep while I'm talking or always hearing "uh huh" to make it seem like they're listening. After awhile I just gave up trying. Sad thing is, I don't think anyone even noticed. If anything it was probably a relief.

Anyway sorry for the pity party, but I can definitely relate. I'm here to listen if you ever need to talk 🙂

~S~

[Kat63]

It sounds like you’re angry about that, and that’s understandable. Everybody needs to be heard. Everybody needs to feel like what they want matters.

[Want2BHappy3]

Sorry to say this, but you're friends and family would like you be quite, don't want to hear it trust me I know, my kids have chosen to isolate me as a way to deal with my anxiety. I have a friend who WAS sending me emails telling me to be positive, quotes etc. I haven't heard from her in a couple of months, that's Why I'm on this site... I was going to therapy, had to stop going because I couldn't afford it, was diagnosed with diabetes. Looking for a job, once I find one I can go back to therapy. So if you're Not going to counseling, go if you can?

[BeachBumBabe]

You need to get new people to hang around. These people are toxic.

"No friends are better than fake friends". -anonymous

Why? Because your going to end up with no friends eventually because they are fake, so why notjust save yourself the heart ache of being hurt be just avoiding them in the first place.

As far as a voice not being heard, do you mean when you are at work and you speak up during a meeting, they all ignore your opinion? Or are you out with a group of friends and they ignore your conversation and or exclude you? Are you at a families house and they blow off your anxiety and mental illness? Do people take you as a joke? Or are you in a club or campaign for social change or justice and your message isn't being heard? For the work and joke one, my first advice if your not already doing it, is take your self seriously. People don't want to be around or listen to a joke. Get a serious look on your face, do as you say. When you talk give eye contact, stop laughing, don't mumble or use a baby voice, speak clearly and project your voice. Otherwise your a joke no one gives a fuck. Be confident no one like to be friends or co-worker with a wuss, so stand tall. Say what you believe in.

As far as the friend or family situation don't associate with them.Shy, no confident joke it not,no friend is a person who doesn't here you out regardless of the matter, unless you don't here them out, friendship is a two way street you gotta give to get. But I assume you listen to them. Family it not if they don't give a fuck about you, fuck them. You don't choose your family, so so people are related to so fucked up folks . People give leeway to family because they are family but it's not excuse. A toxic person is a toxic person. Once these people realize your gone, they will do one of two things, realize your not a joke you weren't playing and say damn I took advantage of her I miss her, I'm going to change and they will contact you or miss you. OR they won't give a fuck your gone, and so be it. Some people don't change, unfortunately. If they contact you after you distance you can do one of two things. Rekindle that relationship or say fuck it these people fucked up beyond return there's no going back. If you do rekindle, rekindle slowly because these people need to earn your trust and also your not sure you've completely changed. Don't come back to fast or they will think you need then and get entitled. If you realize this person never changed don't ever go back again

[hypercat54]

Hi it isn't true that everyone gets to be happy except you! No one is happy all the time as we all have problems in life which get us down. We can hope to be generally contented but no one lives in a permanent happy state unless they on drugs or something.

If you feel your voice isn't heard then have you ever thought why? Can you analyse what is happening? If those around you cared about you they wouldn't be happy if you are sad - why would they? x

[marheart]

Write in your Gratitude Journal. Get your feelings sorted out of your mind and body.

Express your negative feelings in a general journal.

Every AM and PM praise yourself for being grateful about positivity in your life. Writing is Healing!

[suzzze]

Omg this is exactly what I’ve been thinking all day