Keeping calm

[Oct7skye]

The past few days have seemed so dark. Nothing is going right. I just feel like I’m in this world alone and when I try to do things to keep me going someone always had something negative to say or want to do something that’s not appealing like go drinking. I wish I could get my family to understand but until they have been through the things I’m going through they won’t. 😔

[Liveinhope0689]

I completely understand where you are coming from my days have been like that lately and friends don’t help bc they wanna drink and yes drinking helps for the moment but the next day everything is worst. So know u are not alone and there is hope we just have to hold on

[LadyO4]

I've had plenty of dark moments in my life, and they sure can put a strain on your outlook of life. But since you say it's only been the past few days, has circumstances prior to this post been better? I sure hope so.

The good news is that you are not alone. There are so many wonderful people in this world, and the secret is connecting with them, and letting them influence how you look at yourself. I stopped looking to certain individuals (three family members) a long time ago to understand me, and boy was it a relief.

I don't know what your interests, faith, strengths, and skills are, but I am willing to bet there are people close to you that need what you have to offer. Maybe it's your willingness to help, or maybe your attentiveness to people's needs, or your smile, or your ability to serve. What are you good at? And what qualities do you like about yourself?

Try connecting with people who you share something in common, whether it be a recreational activity, volunteer work, or a hobby that puts you in tough with others who love the same things you do.

No need to let others define your worth. You are an individual who was created to be unique - a one-of-a-kind. Be free with that! You are loved for who you are!

Perhaps these stories will encourage you and refresh you! bit.ly/2yx0uqe

[Oct7skye in reply to LadyO4]

Thank you so much. I really needed that. I do always look for the approval of others because for so long it seemed like I didn’t do anything right. I’m good enough to leech off of but always negative criticism instead of encouragement or acknowledging you see me trying or you’re proud.

[LadyO4 in reply to Oct7skye]

Looking for the approval of others may stem from your childhood experiences, and caused you to continue to feel this way. Most adult behaviors area direct result of childhood beliefs - meaning, that depending on how a person responded to you back then, you formed a belief about yourself, based on these reactions.

But you are not bound to the opinions of others, and once you come to realize you you were created with a purpose, you can be set free to just be yourself.