Struggling socially

[unpetitnuage]

Last week I met with some classmates to work on a group project. We all got on well and I mentioned that I'd love to get everyone together for drinks. The next day I said, "I'm so excited to make quality connections in the program. These are the dates that would work for me to have you guys over, etc. etc." Only one person responded in the group text. I'm feeling very hurt/rejected and am trying not to take it too personally, but have recently felt concern about my social skills or ability to connect to others, especially women my age. I feel like I'm in this place where I'm remembering every time I try to reach out and make new friends, the other person just doesn't reciprocate or put the same amount of effort in. I can't tell whether it's me personally or if that's just how people are now. Thoughts or advice or shared experiences?

[Strongheartforever]

Don’t be discouraged. I think inviting folks to your home right off the bat may be intimidating for the shy. Start out slower maybe? I’m sure others will chime in with more ideas. I just know that when someone invites me to a social gathering my initial impulse is to bow out and disappear until I know them well and won’t be walking into a party full of strangers. That’s intimidating for many. But you have a lovely open heart so do not be deterred. Keep being yourself and don’t shut down based on one event. Meetup has groups you may enjoy being a part of. Follow your impulse to find connections, just zero in on folks who share that same desire. There are many all around you!

[b1b1b1]

Your invitation may have been to soon as noted by Strongheart. Wait until you know them better - maybe a few months - and then try to extend an invitation again. Also, for a first invitation, it might be best to suggest something more low key, such as getting together for coffee in a local place.