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[TinaBelcher]

Every day I’m terrified. I would like to talk to someone that understands what I’m going through. I want to enjoy my life. I really do. I’m just so scared of everything. All the time.

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Good morning Tina and welcome! 🌞

I do understand and know how you feel! I get scared too...my answer to this dilemma may not be what you want to hear! I have to make myself deal with the fears and do/participate in what is needed until I realize that there’s nothing to be afraid of. I always ask myself “what’s the worst thing that could happen?” The answer to that question is usually quite simple and without any significant consequences. I try to take positive action no matter what I’m dealing with. I try not to dwell on unpleasant feelings about the past or the future. Face what you can “today” and let go of the rest. Almost always the sky never falls as a consequence of my fears. I hope this helps a little! Wishing you the best!!

[GodspropLizzy]

Hallo TinaBelcher, GratitudeFirst is very correct! This wise man said once- 'whatever you're afraid of, run to it! run to that fear!' We are still generations living under the legacy of our former president Mandela- but i know this is what he wanted for us- each in our gut raw wrenching, sometimes private fears.

i usually try to fight fear by facing its opposite- but another perspective-not all roads lead to Rome but some few: The mindfulness technique harnesses natural principles and laws of human nature. They were created by Marsha Linehan, who was severely disturbed and in a mental hospital and ended up finding 'inner peace, inner harmony'- if you like it. I wouldn't go around calling it wa or Zen or anything, but i understand it very well.

So i have been looking at week one, two and week three. The idea behind it is radical acceptance, just ceasing, just putting life off its traffic of issues, priorities and agendas and resting. Find your rock, your refuge, your fortress, and make it big. Oprah said once that whatever you focus on magnifies, i'm not sure if that is true but it will at least be your reality, your gravity, your foundation.

Our minds are hazy mazes; just think though, you can put anything into it. It will obey whatever you command it to think (well, i suppose, sometimes). But i try to think, this is the present, it will go away, this too soon shall pass- so i can make the moment last as long as i like. And then when it is hijacked, I can start again. So i will cry, then someone will dry my eyes, and i will smile today and frown tomorrow. Then......the process may have to start again.

You love yourself unconditionally, i trust that. Now you have to work harder- you have to love life unconditonally. If that's too hard, like it is for me, then accept life unconditionally and flow with it. Don't be overly accommodating and reacting to it like me, but you'll walk a tightrope. This is your life. Be still and know that there is a God. That God is God and he has the power to show he's God.

Wishing you all the best