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[aaj23]

I’m not sure if anyone has suffered from depression so bad that they don’t clean the house? My dishes have been sitting there waiting to be done for a week and I just don’t want to do them. Along with cleaning the rest of the house and I’m afraid that my boyfriend is going to end up breaking up with me because of this. I just don’t want to do anything but sleep ☹️

[Hidden]

Are you getting any help from a Dr.? If not you should. I'm here for you...wishing you all the best. Love & Hugs!!! XXX

[aaj23 in reply to Hidden]

I do have a therapist and it is helping it’s just sometimes I get in these moods where I’ll do nothing but clean and then other days I dont wanna do anything 😦

[Hidden in reply to aaj23]

I can understand that...sometimes we have to push ourselves..at least that's what I do...I'll force myself. I find if I stay busy it helps me out a lot! Love & Hugs!!! XXX

[Byelka in reply to aaj23]

Have you ever been diagnosed? I'm just curious because of the statement "I get in these moods where I’ll do nothing but clean and then other days I don't wanna do anything" I'm not a doctor but it's worth mentioning these symptoms to your therapist as well. Sometimes people are misdiagnosed with depression when they have bipolar disorder. It's worth thinking about/asking your therapist about.

[thatjuanguy]

I know exactly how you feel sometimes there just isn’t any motivation to do anything you just gotta try and find it so you can get the stupid stuff done.

[hypercat54]

Yes me. My flat is a midden - desperately needs tidying then a deep clean but I keep staring at it and don't do it. I have no hot water, have a leak in my toilet pipe so have to just turn the water on once a day, and my telly and Sky box aren't working. I need to get these seen to but can't coz my flat is so awful. It has been like this for months.

I don't have any answers I'm afraid but if you find any let me know please. x

[Fishmonster]

Great Morning

Go into the bathroom look in the mirror give a big smile and tell yourself good morning. Do something small to boost yourself up. Every small step will help.

I struggle with depression and wanting to sleep all the time too. I do things in small steps and only focus on one thing at a time.

Does your boyfriend know what your struggling with? He can be a great support to help you deal with this

[aaj23 in reply to Fishmonster]

My boyfriend does know but he doesn’t understand anxiety/depression so it’s like sometimes he kinda doesn’t support when I need him the most which is sad :/

[sea4236]

I’ve been there. What I’ve found that helped me was to make a playlist of songs that cheer me up, even if it’s just for a few minutes at a time. It doesn’t make me feel better permanently but sometimes it’s just enough for those few minutes.

[Hidden]

Maybe it might help to purchase paper plates and plastic utensils. That way when these episodes occur you can’t beat yourself up for not doing the dishes?

[Marshall64]

To motivate myself I put on upbeat music, drink caffeine (I know, not good) and plan on just doing one small thing. That small thing leads to more things as i see progress. It is the starting that i struggle with..

[Lyn842]

That's what happens when depression has a hold on you. Its hard, I know. BUT you have to make the effort. Do you want to lose your boyfriend? I am guessing the answer would be No. Force yourself to do 1 thing. Seems doing the dishes would be a good start. You will gain a feeling of satisfaction when that is done. If you think your boyfriend knows you are depressed, in a nice way, you ask if he would help you. Even if not....do it! He will see you're making the effort. Now, you didn't expect me to say stay in bed and sleep or that it is even ok now, did you? We're here to encourage each other. Let me know when you are done. If I don't hear from you I will assume you didn't do as I suggested. You can do this. Tackle one project at a time so you don't become overwhelmed. You can't do it all in one day if the whole house needs your attention.

[SummerW]

I have felt like that pretty often. I also know that the longer I leave it, the worse I feel. It just gets more and more overwhelming. A few times, I've had a friend come over and talk to me while I do it. It makes it easier. Or sometimes I get it done before she comes. Is there someone who could come over and help you or talk to you? I hope you're having a better day.