Separation anxiety.

[Remm]

Recently started having almost hysterical episodes when away from my partner...decided to look up what was wrong with me and found info on ASAD (adult separation anxiety disorder) which i had almost all symptoms of. I was wondering if anyone had any tips that can help me get through/passed this? Thanks hope everyones day goes worry free

[Aspergirl47]

Hey Remm....Going through hell with the same problem...only with my son..both live together and when he leaves the house I have sudden severe panic attacks...I totally sympathise ....Has anything happened to you (trauma of any sort) ? I do have Ptsd from abuse in childhood ...Its like any anxiety...our mind playing games....I had this before years ago and suddenly it stopped and one day I realized my son had gone out and I didn't bother...the only thing I can think of is I started studying a subject I had always been interested in and I think my mind became so focused on that...it forgot everything else if that makes sense? I am suffering with the same problem now and again will have to try a similar method to see if it works...hope this has helped in some way

[Remm in reply to Aspergirl47]

Hey aspergirl thanks for responding.. i feel those same anxious frantic moments when away from my partner its interesting the spectrum of anxiety and how in two different relationships the same feelings apply. As a child i was also abused and have ptsd from certain occurances, i was also diagnosed with major depression around 18 or so and things have gotten worse as the years pass. I took into consideration your advice from yesterday and applied it during the day which helped a bit but i fear its only a distraction from the issue itself which im trying to fix. They do say an idle mind is the devils advocate and maybe the distraction and focus of personal life is whats the outcome needed to overcome this issue the both of us experience. Hope you have a peaceful day today with less stress!

[Aspergirl47 in reply to Remm]

Hi Remm....Sorry u have gone through child abuse too....I think the issue we are dealing with is trauma based...I did see a therapist last week for the first time in years and she told me its feeling of abandonment and when my son leaves the house its a trigger for me....even though distraction did seem to help me years ago it has happened to me again....and this was after I received a phone call from my brother ...he is very narcissistic and aggressive...and the things he was saying to me I perceived as abandonment and it brought on my panic attacks again....so yes I agree with fauxartist that it would be a good idea to see a therapist in this case as with mine.. who.has experience dealing with abuse ...I also had major depression at 14 and then again 18 also....I'm glad distraction helped if only a little.... Hope u can heal and find some peace too...here anytime...

[fauxartist]

The first thing I would do if I were you is find a good therapist who understands you're issues. Self diagnosis can sometimes not be the whole picture of what you may need help with. And of course none of us are professionals so we can only be supportive. One really great thing about sharing here too is that all of us come from different places in life and even different places in the world, but we all have the same thing in common, finding people who will listen, and be caring.

[Aspergirl47 in reply to fauxartist]

[Lossisgain]

Hello Remm, I recently got married and I spend most of the day with my husband since we work together. Lately I’ve stayed at home and he went places without me and I realized that my separation anxiety got worse...as soon as he leaves the house I can’t stop crying. I try to focus on doing other things but after some time (30 min - 1 hour) I get so anxious and I can’t focus on anything useful. I was verbally abused as a child and I’ve never seen my parents have a good relationship...I also spent a lot of time alone (childhood, adolescences). I’ve suffered from depression and anxiety and I’ve been doing CBT on myself and it woked quite well but this separation anxiety is new...I love my husband and I know it’s not his fault but the fact that I get so anxious when he leaves makes me angry with him!