I thought going sober will make everything better boy was I wrong I feel more depressed and anxious and disconnected feel like am losing my mind
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How long has it been? I don’t know how long the effects of alcohol can last. Maybe you need time to readjust. Maybe you are going through withdrawal and it will get easier.
29 days
Good for you. I hope it gets easier for you.
I am a recovered Alcoholic. Just completed 12 years of sobriety. The 12 steps of AA saved the way I lived. Today at times OCD kicks in but at no point, the obsession to drink has never come back. If you want to learn more about AA, I will be glad to elaborate.
Did you drink a lot when you used it?
we drink and self medicate so we don't feel our depression and anxiety...or any of our childhood abuse, traumas...etc. So when you sober up or come down...guess what...all that stuff you we were trying to numb ourself not to think about...it's still there....
the only way to get off this merry-go -round is to sober up...clean up....and talk to a therapist with a clear head.. Nope...no magic pill is gonna solve our issues over night, and it takes work and patience. And if you have the disease of alcoholism or addiction....well....then that's a guaranteed dead end without recovery.
the oxymoron With depression...is that alcohol is a depressant....yep....first couple of drinks you get a euphoria, then you go down hill from there till you either pass out or black out drunk. If you get professional help ...and have bad depression...they can put you on SSRI's and you can go through therapy to understand your stuff...or not.
either way it's your choice, your life...and nobody can fix you unless you want to change.
I want to change
And I have change just don’t like feeling this way
I didn't either at first. I went thru the ups and downs of the severe depression, bipolar2, ADHD and crippling anxiety. I still deal with all that 7 years sober but it's worth it cause drinking its soooo much worse!! Please contact me if you need to talk
I have Severe depression and PTSD and crippling anxiety I have a lot of childhood abuse
I've also got ptsd from 7 rapes so I understand you there too! I know you can beat this!! I read your 29 days sober!!! Wow girl your rockin it!!! It feels like crap I know but the first month is the hardest. You've got some tough days alreadybehind ya.
I was rape by multiple people friends and family
I'm so sorry you've been thru it too. That's why we drink too. To deal with,those traumatic days such as rape. God I wish you didn't have to deal with it too. So sorry!! I'm here ok. I totally understand how and what your going thru. Its an awful trauma we did not deserve. Its never our faukt,it those evil ppls fault!! If you take those meds I promise you'll feel better. I couldn't imagine going back thru all that pain day to day! Hit me up if you need to talk!!
Yeah I do need a release been dealing with it since 5 years old always wanted to end my life because of it and still see the people today I feel so useless because I just let me run all over me
Today started out good and now am crying
Hi Hru
I also suffered severe depression especially while drunk and when I quit but it's nothing at all like it was. For your depression to get better staying sober is key!!! Just curious where do you live? I lived in Washington state the worst place for depression.
Flint mi I use to drink alcohol to numb everything
I think we all used it for that purpose. It works for that for the first few drinks or so but after that all it does is cause depression to get worse. Its a depressant and it will always bring you down farther each time. I did just like you I drank problems away but every time I drank I eventually woke up to feeling way worse than before I drank!! Its that vicious cycle of alcohol addiction. I think its one of the worst addictions.
Me to I was going to try AA do u take any meds?
Yes try AA but it never worked for me but I'm stubborn cause I went to AA and NA for at least 15 years. It might be just what helps you stay sober!!! I'm glad you mentioned it cause I wasn't sure if you had gone or not. I read the big book of AA I don't know how many times. You'll be able to get a sponsor there at AA meeting too. Its someone you can call day or night to help you thru cravings etc. That could be very beneficial for you
I never tried AA was thinking about it am so tried of my bf he drink and go crazy and he don’t think he have a problem am so happy we don’t live together
Omg I'm sooooo happy your not living together. Two alcoholics cause enormous drama and problems that can be hard to get away from!!! Been there done that!!!
We use to stay together
I am not an AA ' only' convert by any means...maybe in the beginning because it got me sober and clean, I needed anything that was reliable and that someone was willing to help me no questions asked....over the couple of decades I needed less and less after going to therapy for all those years as well. I think of it as a good starting point of sobriety...but after a while if your not in therapy....you just become what is called a 'Dry Drunk'...you never get better and you never change...you just are sober. There is not a lot of emphasis on going to therapy in AA, and that I did not agree with that. So I did a lot of things to get better, therapy, group therapy, ACOA...etc.
I always need to talk
Ill be here cause I'm not working right now plus on disability so I'm always here to chat!!
Am on disability
Are you my long lost sibling??? Lol!! We are like sisters. I really understand where you are coming from and how awful you feel right now. It does get better. I hated hearing that but didn't know it was true. But the truth is is that drinking feels worse!!
U right the next day because of hangovers and maybe you’re my lost sister since I have all brothers 😂
Lol all I have is one brother. Too funny! Any of your brothers alcoholic?
No
When u was drinking what was the worst hangover or how it made u feel once u start trying to stop
I drank all day I never had hangovers anymore. Quitting was hell as ya know. Alcohol screaming my name every minute of the day! It will make you completely insane but I cried to God in my prayers went to church but,woke up one day and the obsession was gone
I've got 3 DUIs too So drinking causes more problems its just a waste of life.
I got a lot of DUIs and got my license took an away. I remember blacking out on a railroad tracks in my car because I was drunk passed out in my car because I was drunk at a gas station I was always drunk at my kids football games school I use alcohol daily to deal with my anxiety because I was afraid to have a panic attack and right now I don’t have any energy to do anything around the house but if I was drunk I would be doing everything because drinking made me strong helped me to forget and made me numb but after I finish drinking here comes the hangovers and depression and anxiety through the roof
Ok yea the depression and anxiety is always worse when sober cause I'm taking so many pills to stay happy. I take lamictal and Geodon for bipolar2, pristiq for depression. Just started propranylolol for anxiety which has been a miracle drug for my anxiety. I couldn't leave my home for anything but can a little bit now. So I'm totally medicated which I totally need. Have you ever seen a Dr for the depression or anxiet
Yes but was afraid to try medication
Oh hell no I welcomex it!! Please Dr help me basically!!! I've always taken meds thru out life
I have meds but afraid to take them
Oh please take them they help so so very much! Without them I'd be going insane too!!
I will try them because I want to feel better
Do u have panic attack’s or u single? Who is your support system
I've had lots of panic attacks!!! Put me in the ER many times! Horrible feeling! Single but sick of mens crap so very happy single. No stress of being cheated, lied to anymore! Life is much easier now!! Lol. Mom has been my main support even currently still is at 7 years sober! Pretty bad being 45 and still feel like a mess but that's just where I'm at. I've got a great family that's always been there but they don't understand alcoholism or anything at all.
I had a lot of panic attacks too and am 41 sometimes I hate myself
Feel like am going insane right now
What I've always used is sleeping pills to just go to sleep in hurtful insane days! Sometimes sleep does wonders!!
Never thought about that I need to stop being afraid to try meds and just try to give them a try
Oh please do cause I couldn't function without them. Your missing out feeling at peace by not taking them.
Maybe if I take them I can think straight and leave my bf alone for good
Yes great idea!!! Believe me I'd be so angry and beyond non fictional if I didn't take them. Oh man it would be messed up!!!
I used to take anabuse to quit drinking but even drank on that
I just feel so lost and alone I need to started praying more and going to church i need all the help I can get
That's what saved my life. I never believed in God but when I just woke up 7 years ago and decided I didn't need to go get beer cause I had no cravings anymore. What ??? I couldn't believe it. I cried and cried to God for sooooo many years and going to church every sunday that He is the only,thing that saved me from death by drinking
I need to start back going to church because am tried of feeling this way and I don’t want to die from drinking alcohol and I really need a higher power in my life right now
Yes please try cause I would be dead or I would be homeless. Hey I've got to charge phone its almost dead. I've really enjoyed talking with you. This phones crappy cause it now only charges if its standing straight up. What a pain in the you know what!!! Please let me know how your doing ok. Ill always respond except for when phone dies. Lol
Thank u for talking to me I really appreciate it I hope to talk to u again. Really enjoy talking to u too
Am here for u too hugs to u❤️
Hugs back to you tamka38! I hope to talk to you again as well! I just pray I can help even for a minute. Its so worth it cause your awesome and really trying to change your life and I admire you for that!
Please attend church, pray hard cry,to God to help save you from this and please give meds a try ok. You would feel sooooo much better!!! Trust me!!!
Ok thank you
How ya doing??? If your awake let me know if your ok!! Its hard on Friday nights so I'm here phones charged
Btw, my name is Kacey and its been really great meeting you! I've been searching for someone in recovery to try and talk to so thank you. I haven't been able to help another cause I don't go to AA anymore but,I'm thinking about going again to try and help someone thru the struggles of getting sober. I just moved to Utah so not sure where meetings are. Ill go if you try it too. Then we can share about our experiences with each other. Just a thought. Hang,in there. I'm available cause I just woke up so hit me up whenever you need to!!! Hugs
Tamka your well on your way to changing. Some find AA/NA is helpful. Not sure if this is an option, it’s free and it has a set of steps that need to be followed, to stay sober. Mostly these steps help us heal from our past, with our higher powers help. We have to deal with our past, when we are ready. Early on just staying away from the drink is the priority, the anxiety and depression will become manageable. Congratulations for not drinking. Keep talking let it all our..
Oh thank u is just really hard feeling all your feelings at once
Hi! I’m going through the same exact problem. I drank last night after not drinking for a while (I was feeling awful with my anxiety and depression, feeling disconnected all the time) - and I feel absolutely horrible today. I feel like I’m going crazy. These waves of depression are awful, i feel it in my stomach - then I stress and start to disconnect from reality feeling I don’t know who I am - then I begin to panic and feel all symptoms of a panic attack. I’m here if you need to talk. I’ve been trying to talk to someone about this but it’s defeating when they listen yet don’t fully grasp what is going on. Kind of assured me that I’m okay and this doesn’t only happen to me.
Hey am here if u need to talk it happen to me to all the time
Hi I'm also sober from alcohol and drugs 7 years. Its very hard but I know you can do this!!! I've been there oh so many times!!! It will get better. I promise and truly mean that. How long sober? I totally understand what your going thru. Trust me it gets better with time. If you ever just need a sober friend to talk to I'm here for you. I mean anytime!! Alcohol was my main drug of choice too. So let me know how your doing so maybe I can help.
Am 29 days sober and am so depressed and anxious and disconnected and numb all feeling all my feelings at once and I don’t know what to do one minute am happy the next am sad I feel so bipolar and my bf is an alcoholic and I hate being around him because he’s always tripping on me and am just trying to get to know myself again is so hard and nobody in my family understand
Omg I totally understand I really really do. I'm also bipolar2! Lol. I couldn't get sober for 23 years so its tough when family just doesn't get it. Man I think that's been the hardest to deal with. Even sober mine doesn't understand the alcoholism or bipolar2. So ill be here if you need someone to talk to!!#
You've got to end that relationship! Your the only one that matters. Your changing your life and trust me you'll regret staying with him cause he will bring you down!!! Please end it cause its going to hurt your recovery!!
I really do need to end it because he keep saying he’s done drinking and was drinking all yesterday until he pass out and he’s drinking right now we do not stay together but he’s a big problem to my issues
Oh boy yea you need to help yourself which your doing great by being sober 29 days!! drinkers always hook up together. Such a horrible idea. If he chooses to destroy his life that's totally his problem. Please DO NOT LET HIM BRING YOU BACK DOWN TO HIS LEVEL!!! Your changing but,it may not feel like it right now but you've made a huge change
He stress me out so much he use to jump on me put me out his house make me have sex to him and right now he started something today because he’s drunk 😵 I know what drinking dose to people and I don’t ever want to feel that way again and am tried of forgiving him
Never forgive him for anything! He's being the jerk. Stay single for now you'll be glad you did. I really wish I could of taken advice back then instead of giving into alcohol again and AGAIN. AA will be great for you cause you find an outlet to talk only,if you want to and make friends with ppl that totally get what its like to be an alcoholic and how it feels to get sober
I will think about it been messing around with this man for 15 years
My sister drank heavy for 45 years. She was drunk every day of her life. She was hateful, mean, rude, selfish, and very expectant of people around her. She used to spend her check on booze and then call me and tell me she didn't make enough money to pay her bills and wanted me to run her two hundred dollars to the bar. She must have thought I was born ten minutes ago. Point of this story is this. Now she is dying of 4th stage cirrhosis. Her body swells with fluid and he skin looks like it's going to pop. He's become extremely dependent on my for food, a place to live, cigarettes, clean clothes, and whatever else she feels she must have because she's sick. I don't feel sorry for her. Lots of times I have to get away from her because I feel like I'll just punch her in the face if she doesn't shut up about what people won't do for her. Figure out how to stop drinking and be happy. Go to the doctor and get some help. Don't keep on and make someone else's life miserable the way my sister has made mine miserable.
Am sorry about your sister and is not right she treating u like that. All the things u said about your sister is the way my bf act everyday and am tried of him he don’t have cirrhosis but he drinks everyday and he stop eating meats months ago and only eating vegetables he keep saying he’s healing his body and I keep telling him he’s killing his self we don’t love together thank God I want to help him but I need help myself don’t know what to do to help him out
Hi I don't know how you can think it would take less that 29 days to feel a lot better after giving up a habit you have indulged in for so long. It's like me who has smoked for 44 years until last August expecting to recover completely and in less than a month. I still crave a bit after 8 months and I have also caused thyroid problems. The drink can affect you in a similar way.
It just doesn't happen like that. When you stopped drinking you gave yourself a chance of a much longer and happier life and that will happen in time. Stay off the drink as this the best thing you can do for yourself.
Well done for this and don't be tempted to go back to it. x
U right and thank u
Lol I felt a lot like you until someone pointed this out to me. Now instead of feeling omg why did I pack in the fags when I feel like this, I am grateful things aren't worse after abusing my lungs for so long.
Alcohol as well as smoking can mask symptoms as well as cause them as it messes with our organs. I have given up ciggies before they give me up (then the outlook would be very bleak) and you have given up the alcohol - isn't addiction a b****? x
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