I don’t feel happiness anymore

[Priscillar307]

This past weekend I came into contact with 8 people I’ve never met before & stayed with them the whole weekend, which having social anxiety doesn’t help much with that. On top of that I got into a really depressive state where I felt and still feel worthless, ugly, etc. I just felt like once again I ruined this mini weekend vacation into a disaster and I ruined EVERYONES time & now I just DONT feel good with myself at all.

[hypercat54]

Hi did you read the replies on your last post as you didn't come in with any responses? Did they help?

I doubt very much whether you have the power to ruin anyone else's day - why should you? If people didn't like you they would just write you off and enjoy themselves without you. They are not worried about others liking them so you can't ruin their good times.

I think you are making too many assumptions and that it is your thoughts about yourself which you are projecting onto others and assume that's how they are feeling about you. They probably never gave you a second thought as they would be too busy worrying about themselves and trying to enjoy their day.

You need to start tackling (if you aren't already) your negative thoughts about yourself and your own behaviour. x

[Priscillar307 in reply to hypercat54]

Yes i do read them an extremely help me! As for not thinking about negative thoughts i really feel like that’s easier said than done for me /: i try really hard but i just cant get it out of my mind & i begin to be paranoid & assume people are talking bad about me??

[hypercat54 in reply to Priscillar307]

Hi again no it's not easy but you have identified a problem so you can now work out how to deal with it. One way to deal with negative thoughts is to use distraction. Do something like washing up, read a book etc. The more you interrupt your thinking patterns the less hold they will have over you. Something else to do as well is when you have a negative thought ie 'I am a lazy person for getting out of bed so late' add 'Well done for getting out of bed at all feeling so lousy'. Practice these dilligently and they will bear fruit.

As for others judging you or talking badly about you - why should they? Ask yourself if you are that important to them that they want to spend their time and energy slagging you off. I assure you they have much more important things to think about rather than you! Ask yourself whether you spend time worrying about strangers and acquaintances and whether you judge them. x

[Hidden]

I don’t think I’d enjoy a weekend with 8 strangers, with or without a predisposition to anxiety disorder... also, it is not your job to make sure everyone else has a good time, especially people you don’t know. It appears you put the happiness of all these people on your shoulders. How about say out loud a few times, “ I don’t care if they had a good weekend, it’s not my responsibility” Relieve your psyche of the burden.

[gogogirl]

I agree- I don't think I'd like to spend a weekend with a bunch of strangers either.

[Hidden]

Think I'd have felt the same as you, it sounds like a very odd situation to be in.