Picking up other people’s vibes

[Cat314]

Have you had a day where you’re struggling but you are trying hard. Then someone comes along and their negativity hits you. Bam. On top of everything else you’re going through you get that hit. It is very unpleasant. Draws you back into sadness which makes you feel weak. You have to retry to get back up, which is hard enough in the first place. I just turn to this group because people understand. I just look for that little light.

[Agora1]

Cat314, shining a positive bright light your way. Don't allow someone's negativity bring you down. You are stronger than that. Let them wallow in their own self pity. Smile, stand tall, you've got today in the palm of your hand. xx

[Cat314 in reply to Agora1]

Thank you so much for this. I really needed these encouraging words, appreciate your sending light my way.

[robinfar]

Cat,

I really know what you mean. I am one of those people who picks up other peoples energy/mood. I also see every form non-verbal communication. If the negative person is someone I care about - I will use humor to see if I can kick-start a more positive dialog and if that is not successful, I will minimize my contact with them. If it is someone I don't care about or don't know, I try to empathize. Maybe they are dealing with a tough issue at home, death in the family, etc. If that doesn't work I think, "Well, it sucks to be you (the negative person)." LOL

This is a big issue for me because I tend to think that everything is my fault and I am hyper sensitive to others feelings. This stems from the trauma that caused the anxiety in me. I wish I had some other coping methods, so if you have any...I would love to hear it.

[Cat314 in reply to robinfar]

Robin, thank you for writing back. I am in the same boat. Hyper sensitive to energies and people around me including non-verbal communication. You are not alone. I usually try to shrug it off, but I am not always successful hence my message to the forum. On my own, I try to deal with this sensitivity with a visualization method. I visualize a dark blue/purple color around me to act as an invisible fence so that negative energies can’t penetrate into my space. I have to do this every day to be aware of this safety net. It is part of a daily meditation and they say that meditation should become part of your daily routine to fight off depression and anxiety. Of course, it is easier said than done. I completely understand if someone doesn’t have the time to do this or have difficulty visualizing. But when I can do it, somehow it seems to help.

Like you, if it is someone close to me, I am more sympathetic. But still, no one has the right to dump their anger or negativity on you. If they do, we need to learn to move on and let go. We need to repeat ourselves to not take things personally. If it is someone who is not close to me, someone I don’t know, we need to ever more to let it go. It is hard. Sometimes you feel as though, the damage is done. But it is only damage if you let it into you. You don’t have to. I am realizing this just now. It is up to us how far the comments would go. Maybe the trick is to put a stop on them while they are still on the surface and not internalize them. It is the internalizing that hurts the most. I hope that makes sense.

The positive light was thrown my way today by someone in this forum. I’m grateful for that. Sharing, writing it out and not keeping it in also helps. Hyper sensitive people always pick up on vibes of the others. I guess we need to be careful as to whom we let into our space. And if someone forces their way into that space we need not internalize this energy and purge it instead. Somehow.

I wish you much good luck with all those around you. I hope you have positivity coming your way.