Question

[Cat26538]

Is it to much to ask to want to feel wanted and loved?

[hypercat54]

No Cat it's not too much to ask and we should all be striving for this. Don't forget though it's a 2 way street - you can't expect someone to give so much to you without giving it back to them. Others need to be loved and cared for as well as us. x

[Cat26538 in reply to hypercat54]

I do. I love my family with all my heart. But I don’t get any in return

[fauxartist]

no, you and everyone deserves to be loved.....hypercat54 is right Cat...and I've seen some very kind shares from you on some others posts. You deserve to be loved and to give love is equally as satisfying and very healing I think.

[gerg]

Love must start with loving or liking ourselves. It is nice to receive love from others, but there is no guarantee that it will come in the form we want. Perception of love is arbitrary and relying on specific indications is risky. If we love ourselves others will follow, but we will be accepting of their love without limitations.

Ex. My niece has not called me or replied to my texts in two weeks. I could easily create a story that she is mad at me, or that she doesn't love me. I now feel unloved. The reality was that she was suffering from an illness and she was depressed. She did not want to worry me with these issues, because she loved me.

The fact that I did not love myself (the only love I can control) made me feel totally unloved. This is the type of thinking that happens from mind reading rather than seeking the facts.