Attachment

[babatundae]

I find that I have a really bad attachment problem and I don’t know how to go about it. Im able to form connections very easily but once it’s time to let go, I have an extremely hard time doing so. Does anyone feel the same?

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It may have something to do with a rejection issue. If you love yourself first and far most than you love another person than it may help. It will allow you to love another person in a healthy way. But if you do not love yourself more, when they chose to let go, you feel rejected. At least that is the way I see it. And no one likes to be rejected, including you.

[babatundae]

But I do feel that I love myself but then I’m confused because I do hate rejection. Im unable to say oh well their loss. It’s usually me trying to figure out what I did wrong.

[Hidden in reply to babatundae]

It was said to me once, some people come into your life for a season, a short period of time, and some people for a life time. If they leave we must let them go because there is something else, something better God has for you. I think we are all that way with romantic relationships. It is because of the kind of connection it creates that makes it hard, it is like we are losing a part of ourselves. But still we must let it go. I have had a horrible time learning to let go of romantic relationships but if we love ourselves more, we will move on knowing that there is someone better out there waiting for you to free yourself of that old relationship, someone who God is bringing your way for a purpose. I think it takes practice. Do not beat up on yourselves, you will get there.

[hopefulwanderer]

i feel similar in that way,

With me it depends,

I'm like that with romantic relationships but not at all like that with regular friendships.

I have no problem letting go of regular friends but when it came to dating or my boyfriend it's really difficult

Some people relate this to codependency but I'm not too sure

It's difficult because breaking this habit feels like a lot to deal with

I wish I can confidently say something that will work for you but I'm on the same boat

Hang in there!

If you can afford a therapist or go to free counseling I would bc that's what I'm trying to do to also find answers & solutions