Breakup today

[onelittlerose]

I had a break up today and I haven't felt this shattered before. I'm feeling as close to physical pain as can be caused by mental distress as possible, and I've been in bed since I got home. This is one pain that meds can't fix. I'm grateful that it was cleanly done, we're still great friends, and no hard feelings are kept- that is certainly rare and a treasure. Does anyone have advice for managing anxiety or mood swings after an event like this? I'd like to prepare myself so I can calmly move forward without making it a big deal.

[mrmonk]

Hello onelittlerose,

I'm very sorry to hear about your breakup. Of course, you will grieve the ending of your relationship, and weather the pain you've described. My take is that maybe it would be best not to anticipate anxiety or mood swings -- the mind has a cunning way of setting into motion the very things we wish to avoid. I would focus on working through the feelings you're experiencing now, as it's hard to know what anxiety (if any) will come of it. I know that doesn't answer your question; I'm running on fumes these days, so it's all I've got. I wish for you strength to get through this difficult time, and remember there are tons of folks here to lean on while you do. Take care.

[Sofiathefirst]

Hi, I'm really sorry that you are going through a breakup. They are never easy. I went though a hard one over a year ago, we were together 6 years. You just have to go through the emotions and cry when you feel like you want to. Try to go out with friends or just one good friend. Being out of the house helped me a lot. I know it's a cheesy saying but "time heals all wounds " I feel like it is true. It takes time and it can feel slow but things will get easier and your broken heart will feel better. You just have to want it and for sure don't look back. You got this!

[fauxartist]

yes....even if your the one doing the break up....you will experience a sense of loss if you had feelings for this person at some time in the relationship. Depending on what your circumstances were with this past relationship will be a factor in how you feel and for how long you will feel it. It just takes time, everyone says that, but it's true. Keep sharing here and know you have people who will listen.