Rough night

[ProBSD]

Having a couple rough days. Been feeling quite down and just want to hold my wife but she doesn’t understand and just pushes back. For 6 weeks I’ve been asking her to get out of the house with me but the and is always no. But she still goes to her Christmas party and if one of my sons 22 years old, asks her to do something she says yes. I’m just feeling quite lonely and getting no help from her. When I found I had cancer a couple years ago she was great but definitely not with the newly diagnosed severe depression.

Sorry just needed to get this off my chest. Thanks for listening. Heading to doctors tomorrow to see if meds are good or if they need to be adjusted.

BTW as we do just sit at home she doesn’t say a word. Almost like she is just ignoring me. Just not sure what I should do or if it’s just in my mind.

[claire0410]

I'm sorry you are feeling so low right now. It may be that your wife just really doesn't know what she can do to help you right now and keeps her distance for that reason. I sometimes feel that when I try to explain my feelings to my husband, he feels frustrated because he really can't relate to how badly I feel at times. I think that he often feels helpless because there is not a whole lot he can do to make me feel better. It's hard sometimes to realize how this affects the people we love. I think they may back away because they can't do much to help us. I hope that you can talk to your wife and maybe start working together to get through this. I know even if my husband can't do much to "fix" me, he still does whatever he can to support me. I also realize that he needs a break from me at times as well. I hope that you and your wife can talk and learn to lean on each other for support.

I hope that you can get some help from the doctor. Sending good thoughts your way!

[Sprinkle1]

Hello, I feel sad to hear of your predicament, I think it would help if you went to therapy, and have the therapist talk with you and your wife at some point. Also I would try to find a support group for yourself, being with people that have similar issues can be of great help. Are you on an antidepressant? I would talk to your Dr. after having Cancer a nasty illness can bring on depression. Please get all the help you can. Do not suffer by yourself, try to draw your wife into the situation, she probably needs help also. I am asking you to seek help, I send you Love and Peace. Sprinkle 1