Lost Control of Emotions

[keelyspree]

I just want to be happy. Who would think that could be such a difficult thing to accomplish? It’s hard to feel satisfied anymore or even joyful.

[Sprinkle1]

Hello, I do not think being happy is easy, life is difficult. Can you list what is robbing you of happiness? Can you kick those thing out of your life? Thanks to therapy I learnt to give up the hurting issues and found happyness, Oh yes I have bad days, but not any where near what they were like. Have you though of talking to a therapist? Look at your expectations, and then look at the expectations others put on you, throw out any junk. Love yourself and be true to your self. Soul searching can be very helpful. I wish you well, sending love & Peace.Sprinkle 1

[keelyspree in reply to Sprinkle1]

I guess I mostly just feel lost. I’m 21 and I know what is expected of me but it’s hard to decide where to go and what to do with my future because I want to make sure I’m happy.

[TruthSi72 in reply to keelyspree]

Hi keelyspree

My name is Simon. I'm a life design & coach and hypnotherapist.

Feeling lost is not something you are alone in feeling. It is a common feeling for many.

For you, it is possible that part of your unhappiness lies in your statement above. I shall quote you and then comment on the sentence if that is ok?

"I know what is expected of me but it’s hard to decide where to go and what to do with my future because I want to make sure I’m happy."

1: I know what is expected of me

What is expected of you exactly? And who specifically expects this of you?

2: but it’s hard to decide where to go and what to do with my future

I want you to imagine that there were no expectations and it wasn't hard and you knew exactly where you were going - What would that look like for you? (I know it might seem at first that this is a silly question but the point is that we're using our imagination here)

3: because I want to make sure I’m happy.

Happy compared to what or who specifically?

What does happiness look like for you? Be as detailed as possible about each area of your life.

Please answer these questions for yourself, you don't need to post them here if you do not wish to, you may also DM me if you feel comfortable with that.

A little bit of advice though I don't particularly like to give it is this:

Happiness comes from fulfilment. Fulfilment comes from experiencing all that from life that will fill you with curiosity, joy, love, belonging and adventure. One thing that will kill this for you is living your life for others, either searching for their approval or for a sign that they value you.

It's not true that life isn't easy because sometimes it is, but sometimes it's hard too. That's the nature of living and being alive. You have to work at everything but the key is to enjoy the process.

You cannot control what others do, or think about you or your life but you do have control over what YOU think about you and the direction of YOUR life.

Si.